Introducing MoxieTopics, in-depth PDFs on the topics Ask Moxie readers are most interested in!
These are the topics I get the most questions about, so I’ve written various posts over the years covering them, but this is the first time I’ve written from start to finish on each topic. Priced at $5 each, they’re the right guides to help you know what, when, and why things are happening and what you might want to try to help your family through it.
"I bought the Timeline and the Sleep Regression Intensive on a whim because of the price. But reading the Timeline I had this big insight that I'd been thinking I was doing something wrong whenever my LO hit one of these bumps. Not that I was doing a good job responding to the bump. And then the Sleep Regression ebook made me cry because I realized I hadn't screwed her up at 5 months. You totally changed my perspective. Thank you." -- Aimee, via email
Click on the name of the MoxieTopic to read a description of it. Click on the PayPal button to buy. Once you pay, you’ll get an email asking you to confirm. Click that, and then you’ll get an email with the link to download the PDF. (If you haven’t gotten anything within 5 minutes of pay, email me at askmoxie at gmail dot com and I’ll figure out where it’s stuck in the system.) These are for your personal use and your purchase is good for you to read and print out for yourself--please don't share electronic copies or print out copies for other people.
I’ll add more as I write them, so keep checking back.
Get the five MoxieTopics most essential for new parents for the price of four: New Parent Survival Guide, Is This a Thing? Timeline, Parenting With Another Person, Sleep Regressions, and Tension Increasers and Tension Decreasers. Buying them separately costs $25, but in this bundle they're only $20 for the whole group. Click the green button to buy this bundle now.
Get the five MoxieTopics most essential for parents of toddlers for the price of four: Living Through the 18-month-old Phase, Creating Your Own Parenting Method, About To Jump Out Of Your Skin, Teaching Your Child Boundaries, and 3.5-year-olds Are Difficult. Buying them separately costs $25, but in this bundle they're only $20 for the whole group. Click the red button to buy this bundle now.
Wait, what are we supposed to do with this baby? The first 12 weeks can be really disorienting, so it's helpful to know how to prioritize your time and how to maintain your own health and mental welfare while also making sure you give your baby what they need. This MoxieTopic walks you through the danger spots for your own recovery and health, and tells you what to expect in each section of the first twelve weeks while you're learning your baby. Five bucks, 11 pages. More info on MoxieTopic New Parent Survival Guide here. Click on the green button if you know you want to buy now.
18 months olds can be reeeeally difficult, and you might feel like you're failing. You're not, and it will end, and this is all normal. This MoxieTopic discusses what the major tasks for you kid are at this age and what that means for you, and how to think about all of this so you won't lose it completely while your kids are in this stage. Five bucks, six pages. More info on Living Through the 18-month-old Phase here. Click on the red button if you know you want to buy now.
Three and a half years is an extremely chaotic, charged age. It's not your fault, and you can't make it magically stop being chaotic, but you can use this time to figure out how to help your kid self-regulate and how to help yourself live through emotional upheaval without getting sucked down into it. This MoxieTopic discusses all of that and how to use this age as a basis for getting better at dealing with emotions for the rest of your kid's life. Five bucks, five pages. More info on 3.5-year-olds Are Difficult. Click on the red button if you know you want to buy now.
4.75 is an extremely difficult age, and you need strategies to get yourself through it. This MoxieTopic discusses why it happens, how it happens, and what you can do to get yourself through it. Five bucks, six pages. More info on 4.75-year-olds and the push-pull. Click on the red button if you know you want to buy now.
Seven is an age that makes people want to tear their hair out, and can make you really doubt your skills as a parent. Of course it's "just" another developmental stage, which means that your focus should be on getting through it as unharmed as possible. This MoxieTopic gives you a game plan to keep yourself and your other kids from being affected by the horrible emotional shenanigans your seven-year-old is being affected by, with an emphasis on kindness. Five bucks, five pages. More info on MoxieTopic 7-year-olds here. Click on the red button if you know you want to buy now.
What do you do when your child is pushing you to your limit with some behavior you know is developmentally normal, but is still making you want to jump out of your skin? This MoxieTopic talks about why these intense periods happen, why they'll keep happening (sorry), and how your feelings are normal. Then it gives you strategies for getting through the peak of intensity until your child's behavior changes, so you bend but don't actually break. Five bucks, 5 pages. More info on MoxieTopic About To Jump Out Of Your Skin here. Click on the green button if you know you want to buy now.
Ready to create your own parenting method that works for your family, instead of trying to buy into someone else's method that doesn't work for you or your child? This MoxieTopic walks you through the steps to discover what your parenting mission statement and relationship values are, so you can use them to guide you through any parenting decision you have to make. Five bucks, 11 pages. More info on MoxieTopic Creating Your Own Parenting Method here. Click the green button if you know you want to buy now.
Here's a timeline of all the things can make your baby get weird (by which I mean stop sleeping and get cranky) at predictable times from birth to 2, including growth spurts, sleep regressions, and other phases. 8 pages of what's-going-to-happen-when-and-it's-not-your-fault. I'm writing a book on it, but here's the quick and dirty, ready now when you need it. Five bucks, eight pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Is This a Thing? timeline here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
Here's the whole start to finish on what it means to increase or release tension from crying, how to tell how your child processes crying, what that tells you about the way your child gets to sleep, and what else you can take from this that will help you help your child deal with big feelings. Five bucks, five pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Tension Increasers and Tension Releasers here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
What are sleep regressions? When do they happen? What can you do about them? Al these questions and more are answered in the Sleep Regression Intensive. Eight pages of more than you ever wanted to know about how kids sometimes just can't sleep and it's not your fault. Five bucks. More info on MoxieTopic: Sleep Regression Intensive here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
Not knowing where or how to start unraveling your child's problems, but annoyed at experts telling you to jump without knowing anything about you or your child? Here's the guide to helping you formulate a problem-solving process that works for you that you can apply to any kid-related situation. A little theory, some suggestions of things to think about, then the different approaches and pros and cons of each. Five bucks, five pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Problem Solving Procedure here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
Wondering how to get started (or correct course) so that you're sharing parenting equal ly? This guide shows you how we default into rigid roles that hurt everyone (including our children) and how to get out of those roles to share parenting and relationships. Five dollars, eight pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Parenting With Another Person here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
The excellent thing about boundaries is that refining and enforcing them helps both the person enforcing the boundaries and the person respecting the boundaries. Teaching your child about refining, flexing, and enforcing their own personal boundaries also helps them learn to respect your boundaries, so everyone wins. Five dollars, six pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Teaching Your Child To Respect Boundaries here. Click here if you know you want to buy now:
Looking for ideas to keep your kids from wigging out during a long holiday season? This MoxieTopic talks about the three things you should manage, three things you can't control but should be aware of, and three things that can affect adults and cascade stress down to kids. Five dollars, nine pages. More info on MoxieTopic: Keeping Kids On An Even Keel During Holidays here. Click here if you know you want to buy now: