10-month chaos?

1. I apologize if I accidentally deleted your comment on my last post. Massive spam attack.

2. My 40 Fun Things project is DOA. I don't have time for that much fun! I think what I've learned is that I had it in me all along. I'm trying to embrace it by having a couple of parties to celebrate. T minus 6 days...

3. I got two questions from people with kids in the 9.5-10.5-month range that were ostensibly about the 9-month sleep regression, but were really about how awful they felt that they weren't more on top of things as a parent. I vividly remember feeling like this with my first. It felt like 10 months was the worst point emotionaly for parenting, because I just felt like I should be better at it than I was. Everything seemed so chaotic, and even though I had almost a year of being a mother under my belt I seriously felt like I had no idea what I was doing.

One of the women who wrote me said she just felt "so disappointed in herself." That hurt my heart, partly because I think she's doing a great job, and partly because I remember being disappointed in myself at that stage.

Are we the only ones? Or is this a thing? Feeling inept and a victim of chaos at around 10 months?

Also, it gets better (obviously!), but feeling like you're not doing as well as you could be is gut-wrenching. FWIW, I think there's something about that age that's pretty much the equivalent of 52 Pickup in all areas of the baby's life, and therefore the parents have to scramble to find a new equilibrium.

Thoughts?