Q&A: coping with a miscarriage when a sister-in-law is at the same stage of pregnancy

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Anon writes:

"I
really enjoy your website – I spent many late nights perusing it while
nursing my son, and now check in regularly for information and advice.

I'm
in a really difficult situation right now. My much-loved sister-in-law
and I were thrilled to have due dates with very wanted babies within a
week of each other
in June. However, last week I found out at a routine ultrasound that
the baby's heartbeat had stopped, and now am waiting to miscarry
naturally or to have a D&C. This is a devastating event for my
husband and I, as it is my second miscarriage, and comes on top of my
father's death 1 month ago. I'm just really, really despondent.

On
top of grieving our loss, I'm finding myself feeling very resentful and
jealous of my sister-in-law, who hasn't done a single thing to deserve
these thoughts. I don't know how to be around her now, or how I will
cope with watching her pregnancy progress. These feelings make me feel
like a
very small, very selfish person, and I know that she would be able to
offer support, but I just can't let her in. I feel like she will grow to
judge and resent me if I continue to shut her and her family out, but I
just don't know how to pretend that everything is OK.

Thank you in advance for any advice you or your readers might be able to give."

Oh, Anon, I'm so sorry for your loss.

And I think you need to be gentle with yourself.

Ask your husband to tell your sister-in-law. She will understand that this second miscarriage on top of your father's death is too much for you right now. She'll sit by silently until you're ready to be around her again, without resenting you for feeling your feelings.

It won't always hurt this much. You will feel joy again. But you don't have to force yourself right now, because right now is too raw.

Readers? Any words of comfort for Anon?

 

 

 

41 thoughts on “Q&A: coping with a miscarriage when a sister-in-law is at the same stage of pregnancy”

  1. You have my heartfelt sympathy, Anon. I had a miscarriage too – in my case, it was my first pregnancy, and the baby was due on my mother’s birthday, which felt like such a gift. We were devastated when I started cramping and bleeding. It took a long time to heal; they were hard times, and I also felt personally attacked by every pregnant woman and new baby I saw, as though they existed just to hurt me. It’s a completely irrational feeling, but it’s okay. You just lost something you wanted desperately; it makes sense to feel confused and jealous. Your sister in law should understand. I’m sure she can imagine how devastated she would feel if the situation were reversed. You can even write her an email to say, “I love you, I’m so happy for you, please understand it’s not personal, I need to stay away from you for a little while. None of this takes away from the joy I feel for you.” She probably will feel awkward around you, and agonized for you and guilty to be happy when you are grieving. What breaks down barriers is honesty.We are all holding the space with you, Anon.

  2. I’m so, so sorry to hear about your losses. I second what Moxie said about giving yourself permission to be a little selfish now. There is NOTHING wrong with that. And when you’re ready, you might consider other ways to work through your grief, like talking with a counselor or spiritual advisor. But right now, you don’t even need to do that. Just let yourself have some time. Big hugs!

  3. Give yourself time. This hurts. And your sister-in-law should understand that you need some space to feel the pain and jealousy and all those awful emotions that are overwhelming right now. Those emotions won’t disappear, but at some point you will be able to manage them a little better.You’ve shown incredible grace and love for your sister-in-law just by seeking guidance about how to deal with her appropriately. And you are fully entitled to explain to her (or have your husband explain to her), in as kind a manner as possible, that you need time to tend to your own wounds before you can even think about being able to re-focus on her joy. If your sister-in-law can’t understand that and does judge and resent you, then she’s just someone who doesn’t deserve the respect and love you’re showing her right now, and you need to keep as much distance as possible from her while you take care of yourself through this disappointment.
    Also know that you are not alone. So many of us have felt or do feel the pain and jealousy that you’re feeling now.

  4. I’ve been there, Anon. It sucks. I don’t have anything to add to Moxie’s advice…I think she’s got it exactly right. Please be gentle with yourself. And know that a fellow reader in Minnesota is holding you in her heart.

  5. Sending you thoughts of peace and comfort. It’s such a hard thing to go through at any time, and your grief is triply compounded by your father’s death and sister-in-law’s continued pregnancy. I didn’t think I’d ever stop grieving my miscarriages – tomorrow is the anniversary of one. But it gets at least bearable, in time.

  6. Grieve as you need to. You have just experienced a death in the family. My favorite of DH’s cousins declined our wedding invitation because she had just miscarried and couldn’t handle the occasion. We understood.Your feelings are normal. I don’t know when things will get easier for you, and I’m sorry you are going through this.

  7. I’m so sorry for your loss, Anon. I, too, have experienced the heartbreaking loss, and it is so incredibly painful. Your SIL should understand your feelings, especially when coupled with your father’s recent passing.Unfortunately, I find myself on the opposite side of this story right now. I’m heartbroken for my SIL, and I want to be there for her, but I know she probably wants (needs) space from me right now.

  8. I am so sorry for your loss. Your feelings are completely normal. I had four early miscarriages before finally having a successful pregnancy, and it took me way too long to realize that self-preservation in the face of others’ pregnancies is not selfish or small, it is NECESSARY. Give yourself permission to put as much distance as you can between yourself and anything at all that you find hurtful. There is nothing wrong with being happy for someone else and sad for yourself at the same time – one does not diminish the other at all. A counselor with experience in helping women cope with pregnancy loss is a wonderful idea. I didn’t do it until after my fourth loss, and I wish I had done it after my first – having your feelings validated by a completely neutral party is SO helpful. I hope the physical aftermath is as uncomplicated as possible, and that you are surrounded by love and support as you navigate life while grieving and healing.

  9. I’m so sorry. We had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago, of a baby that was also due in June. And we have a good friend who was our due date buddy–not the same as a sister-in-law, but similar.In our case, the thing that helped the most was that we got a LOT of support from our friends and family as we’ve mourned the loss of our very much wanted baby. It still hurts, but the support has made an enormous difference for us.
    I wish I could do more to help.

  10. One of my best friends and I were due very close together — for her first and my second, and then I miscarried. I couldn’t talk to her for a while, and I still, near three years later, get twinges if I let myself think about the could-have-beens. It became easier when I quickly got pregnant again, though I still couldn’t really talk to her again until we were past the halfway mark and I was comfortable that things would turn out okay.I learned at the time that a lot of folks go through similar things. Cut yourself some slack, take the time you need. If she is a good person, as it sounds like she must be, she will understand and it’ll all be okay.

  11. My sister had an abortion when I was preggers with my firstborn and, though it was her hard choice to make, it REALLY impacted how she felt about bonding with my son. Five years later, there’s still a shadow. Don’t try to force yourself to be joyous for your sister in law….she will understand and, even if she doesn’t, she will be preoccupied with her baby. Grief is funny…give yourself the time and space you need to grieve. You might simply state the obvious to anyone who questions why you cannot be around a pregnant woman or a newborn. I lost my baby. I am sad. End of story. No need to justify yourself- things are hard enough. Good luck.

  12. I have two sisters who were pregnant at the same time. The baby of one sister died in utero, at 39 weeks. The other sister gave birth three weeks later.It was pretty awful for the whole family. Our deep sadness at the death of my nephew cast a pall over our joy at the birth of my other nephew. And my living nephew is a constant reminder of the one who died, since they would have been almost the same age.
    I echo everyone else — be kind to yourself, grieve as you need to. Your sister-in-law will understand.
    Separate from my sisters’ pregnancies, I miscarried between my first and second children. I was so sad, and I really hated pregnant women with a white-hot passion. I could not stand to look at them. These feelings are normal. And they don’t stay so acute forever.
    So sorry about your loss.

  13. Anon so very sorry for your losses. Remember that you are going thru a tremendous change in your hormones too which can be a huge factor. Please give yourself permission to grieve in your own way and let your husband be your protector a little bit. If your sister in law is half the woman you think she is, she will understand what you need to do. Wishing I could send a hug…

  14. I am so sorry for your losses.Perspective from the other side: Last year, when I was going through IVF, two very dear friends of mine were also doing IVF at the same time (one right before, one right after). I got pregnant. One of my friends had a chemical pregnancy, the other had a miscarriage. It was not the first loss for either of them. I was not at all surprised when I didn’t hear from either of them for a couple of months; I was grieving for them too and knew they would need some time.
    So I would venture to say that your sister-in-law, especially if you are as close to her as your letter indicates, is grieving for you and will completely understand if you pull back a little. She won’t judge and resent you. It says something about the strength of your relationship that you are worried about her feelings in all of this, but know that right now your only responsibility is to take care of yourself, not to worry about her, and she knows that too.

  15. I’m so sorry for your loss, and for how painful it is for you right now.Like many others, I’ve been there, too. Right down to the second miscarriage and the due-at-the-same-time SIL. (Wow, and, come to think of it, the time of year — I found out the Tuesday *after* Thanksgiving that my pregnancy was no longer viable.)
    Absolutely cut yourself some slack. One of the few bright spots in having been through pregnancy loss is that it is when I learned that there is no feeling that should make you feel guilty or wrong. Feelings just … are.
    I will share the following not because I think you should emulate me or because my feelings were somehow “right”, but only because I think the more common-yet-diverse experiences you can be exposed to the better. Miscarriage is one of the things that so many have experienced that can make us feel so fundamentally alone.
    I didn’t find myself angry with other pregnant ladies. I *was* madder than hell at people who were child free by choice. (I heard a lot of “why would anybody want to do something stupid like parent” and it made both my choice and my loss of that choice seem really diminished.) And I suspect it goes without saying that people that told me what I should not have done/should have done differently were *extremely* hurtful (and, unfortunately, plentiful).
    I was lucky that I was able to get to a place where the constant presence of pregnancy all around me was actually sort of a source of comfort. Somehow it made it seem more likely to me that it *would* happen for me one day. (It probably helped that the U/S tech noticed an anomoly with my uterus that was surgically correctable, so I had reason to think that the next time would be different.)
    And lastly, my grief at the time was no fun, but the real heart-wrenching tears for my lost children didn’t come for me until years later, after I had two lovely, healthy, (alive) children. I think I didn’t fully realize until then what I actually had to grieve, if that makes sense. So know that grief doesn’t have an expiration date, and be prepared to be kind to yourself whenever it comes up again.
    I’ll be thinking of you with empathy.

  16. I’ve been in the other side of the coin, last year my SIL and I had just given birth to our babies a week apart from each other. The tree of them (she had twins) needed to go to the NICU for complications and sadly hers didn’t make it.It was a horrible situation for the whole family and we tried to be as kind and gentle as possible. She didn’t want to meet my son and didn’t do it until she felt ready (about 4 months later) and still I remember her face looking into my baby’s eyes and the pain she felt.
    She still grieves her lost, and even if we don’t mention the babies unless she does it, she sees my baby as the metric of what her children would have been doing now (walking, talking, etc)… It is hard and it will always be.
    Give yourself time, no one is to judge you and you will come to terms.

  17. I’ve been on the other side of this – my best friend and I were preggo together and I went on to have a health baby and she lost her pregnancy at 15 weeks. We cooled off for a while. I invited her to my shower and she sent a gift rather than come.It took some time but we are fine now. You will be, too.
    I’m not saying it’ll ever be the same but it’ll be okay.
    Same goes for the loss of your dad. I lost mine two years ago last week. I miss him every day. It gets easier, too. Not much but it does.
    Feel your feelings then go do something. Feel more feelings, do something else…

  18. Anon, I am so sad for your losses. I lost a pregnancy four years ago on the day before Thanksgiving, so it has been very much on my mind today. It was also the very day that colleague at work gave birth. I had a lot of resentment for her and her daughter. I, too, needed to take time and space to grieve, and found myself surprised by how much it hurt (the miscarriage, pregnant women, my due date, any reminders…) on so many levels. The pain of loss does not go away, but it does get easier. As all have said, please be gentle with yourself, seek out help as you need it (as you are doing), and know that so many are holding you in love and light.

  19. My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time. I lost the baby at 17 weeks. Her little girl is now 2.I couldn’t see her until after she gave birth. She understood, which helped.
    I was OK for a while. But if anything it’s kind of getting harder again. Looking at her little girl and seeing what I might have had by now is just really hard sometimes.
    I blogged a LOT about losing the baby, failing to get pregnant quick enough and how stressful my subsequent pregnancy was. It helped.
    I’m thinking of you.

  20. Your perspective in the face of such sadness and deserved anger is really something. I wonder if there is a way for you to be honest about your feelings, need for space and then plan together for how you might reconnect when you feel ready. I doubt she will feel anything but the sadness we all feel, along with a healthy dose of guilt. If any seeds of resentment could ever develop, this honest approach would surely head this off. Planning what you will do when you feel ready, how she’ll know when to reach out, what you want from her in the meantime and so on (to the best you can anticipate of course) could help avoid the awkwardness in the future. I can’t help but feel that this is an almost impossible but critical conversation to have.

  21. I’m so sorry. This really hurts. I don’t know how long the really bad hurt lasts.Three weeks ago I found out my baby’s heart had stopped beating. I was 10 weeks and looking forward to sharing good news this Thanksgiving. Instead I had a D&C and actually also ended up having an emergency appendectomy the following day. My OB thinks the appendicitis may have caused my miscarriage. My surgeon didn’t think so. All I know is that a few weeks ago I had a baby and an appendix and now I have neither.
    My physical recovery has been nonlinear, but I’m doing better now. I’ve had to shove grieving thoughts from my head as I’ve had more pressing physical problems, but now they are starting to sneak their way in. I’m having a hard time seeing pregnant women, and they are all around me. Girlfriends with similar due dates and heavily pregnant strangers who give you that “Oh goodness, I’m so tired, would you please hold the door for me since you’re not pregnant?” look are the two hardest groups to be around.
    The one positive thing this loss has given me is a returned closeness to a dear girlfriend who has experienced multiple consecutive losses. I guess when one of you has experienced that pain and the other hasn’t, it is a hard bridge to cross, as much as you want to give support. It’s unfortunate we had to both get to the other side to regain that closeness, but I am grateful to have erased the distance. If you have any close girlfriends you know have experienced a loss too, I suggest talking with her/them.

  22. I’ve been there and, yes, it hurts.But you know what? I bet if you are gently honest with her, you’ll both feel better. Why not kindly tell her that you are struggling? That you so looked forward to going through this journey with her and now you don’t know how to deal with your feelings of being left behind? I can guarantee that she knows you are struggling and doesn’t know what to do or how to help.
    I don’t know why we all insist on struggling alone when we don’t have to. Never once in my life when I was brave enough to share how I was feeling with someone I love have they ever turned away.
    It’s okay that you are feeling this way. It’s okay to share that with her. It’s okay to ask for help once in a while. I bet she wants to help and doesn’t know how, so why not let her in?
    Whatever happens, be kind to yourself.

  23. so so very sorry anon.like so many before, I’ve been in a similar state. In one phone call learned that one of my closest friends was pregnant, and had to share that I’d just lost my baby. They would have been only weeks apart.
    I so appreciate what Jan said, that grief can resurface, and it’s okay.
    Years have past and I now have a little girl. I still wonder who he might have been, but I can’t imagine life any different than it is now.
    Give yourself space to grieve, love your husband, and as moxie and so many others have said, above all, be gentle with yourself. Your relationship with your sil will shift, but if you can be honest with yourself and her, it will regrow when the time is right.

  24. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing. I can’t imagine it was easy to email Moxie and ask the question in the first place. That was very brave and thoughtful of you. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  25. Been there, too. Six miscarriages, one of them a set of twins, and there was usually someone else I was close to who was also pregnant at the same time, and one paired up due date set. Each one has been different, in terms of how I dealt, and not on a straight line – they are each dependent on the place I am and where the world around me is.You know the take-care-of-you, and you know the be-gentle-with-your-beloved-SIL, and you know the it-will-echo, and you may also find yourself grieving unexpectedly for the close cousin relationship your SIL’s child has now lost with your loss, too.
    Some functional techniques that helped for me, and may or may not help for you:
    1) embracing the anger and loss and jealousy as indicators of your passion and hope and happiness rather than as signs that you are somehow less-than for being hurt. Love the fundamental feelings, hold them to you, welcome them instead of fighting them. They diminish when you open yourself to feeling them, and won’t come out sideways on people unexpectedly as much. It’s okay for this to hurt like hell.
    2) Find an online or in person community of people who have suffered similar losses. Crying over everyone else’s pain helped me root out a lot of the little corners of my own pain. I swear for one of the losses I cried four or five hours a day AT WORK for six weeks. I must have looked like hell.
    3) Counseling if community sharing would not work for you. Someone with PTSD experience is valuable (research shows that women who have suffered even one pregnancy loss show PTSD markers at a fairly high rate).
    4) Figure out if you want remembrance in the future – I don’t need to have someone send me a card on the expected due dates of my losses, even the hardest two of them. But I *know* that I don’t need that. It’s worth knowing. If you do, find a way to let those who care about you know that you can’t forget, and would rather know that they remember, too.
    5) Opening the conversation. Miscarriage is a hidden tragedy for our (USian) culture. Until I started telling people socially that I had miscarried, I didn’t know how very many of my friends had also miscarried. MANY MANY, but they had never shared it. The unspoken left walls up, the spoken, even if we didn’t dwell on it, meant a lot.
    6) If you plan to try again, find a trying-after-loss group to share with, too. Trying after a loss is so different, as you know. Pregnancy after loss is also different. It’s worth having peers to talk to who know why you are having a panic attack.

  26. Hi, it happened to one of my best friends and me, but the other way around. She miscarried and it almost ruined us. I wanted to comfort her and she needed space, which was hard to comprehend. The only thing that helped was listening to what she wanted, ie space, and giving her time. So the other way around I would presume, yu need to explain to your sis-in-law that you are happy for her, but need some space and you will be fine in the long term. My baby was born before my friend and me could even speak and it was another year (and her having a baby) before it felt normal to be around each other again. Concentrate on your excisting child and I am sure you will conceive successfully again!

  27. This is Anon – thank you all so much for taking the time to post and share your stories, advice and support. You have all been of more help and support than I can express. Thank you.

  28. I will also chime in as someone who has been on the other side of this, with a close friend miscarrying a baby that would have been born a week or so before my baby. She lived far away, so we didn’t have the challenge of seeing each other face to face all the time, but it was still a hard time in our friendship. She would ask about my pregnancy or want to see a photo of my belly but then later say that my responses only made her sad. I tried asking her what she needed from me, but she couldn’t really articulate it. I’m not sure if there was anything I could have done that would have been more helpful. I had to accept that she was in mourning and needed time. I was also mourning her loss as well as the fact that we couldn’t share such a happy experience together. It was hard knowing that I was not a source of comfort for her, as much as I wanted to be. Now that she has two children of her own, this tough part of our relationship is behind us.

  29. That happened to me. My sister was a week behind me in the pregnancy, and I was devastated by the miscarriage and incredibly jealous of my sister, particularly because I had (and continue to) struggle with infertility and she already had a child. As unjust as my feelings were, i felt like she was a “baby theif”, like she’d somehow stolen my pregnancy. Obviously, that came from grief and was not based in reality at all, so it was something i had to work through as I watched her go through every stage of pregnancy and be her support person at the birth (I know, right?)’ One thing I did realise, though was that my jealousy was irrational and shit I could not and would not visit on her. I attempted to share her joy, and sobbed at home in private. Maybe I could have opened up to her more about my pain, but I couldn’t figure out how to do that without exploding in a toxic way that would not have helped either of us, particularly since her due date was the 1 year anniversary of our mother’s death ( yep, not kidding. Emotional nightmare for both of us). Anyway, I,ve recently spoken about this to my sister, how hard it was for me, the mixed emotions of joy and despair and longing and grief, that holding my newborn nephew was bitter-sweet because if I hadn’t have miscarried, I’d have been holding my own newborn. And she had had no idea what I was going through at the time. I guess I hid it too well. I’m not sure if this will help the OP other than to have the solidarity of someone who has gone through something similar, but there’s my story.

  30. My situation is a little different, but hopefully still applicable. I have a 6-month-old with only a few months to live because of a degenerative muscle disease. His cousins are 5 and 8 months. Does it make me sad to see them sit up and learn to crawl when my baby can’t even lift his head? Of course, and I’m sure that will continue as they get older. But I also think they will be memorials, almost. As they hit milestones, i will remember my baby and what he would be doing if he were still alive. Obviously I’m not there yet – I’ve only experienced the partial grief at goes with a loss that’s inevitable. I can’t understand the way you feel right now. But I think remembering the child you lost when you look at his/her cousin doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I don’t know if that’s helpful and I don’t want to make you feel as if that’s something you “should” do – it isn’t – but it’s a perspective that’s currently working for me.

  31. My friend lost her baby at 20+ weeks (she went into labour) while I was pregnant with my first. I found it heartbreaking. I knew it would be hard for her to be around me so I wrote her a note that said I’d be there when she was ready. Months went by, but she showed up at my door day 5 after my son was born when we were at our lowest and brought the most amazing food ever. Give yourself lots of time and follow your impulses. She’ll understand. Losing a baby is losing all the hope and expectations and anticipation…. Those are all things SIL knows and feels.

  32. I just wanted to speak to the parental loss followed by a miscarriage aspect of your experience, especially since I have been through something very similar – my mother died in Feb 2010 and I then lost two very much wanted pregnancies straight after each other.Perhaps the hardest thing for me in that time was that I had felt somewhat insulated against my grief over losing my Mum when I fell pregnant (both times). I felt like fate/universe/God was giving me a baby to make up for losing my Mum – silly but that’s how I felt. And there was also a feeling of overlap – that my mother and my baby would at least have been alive in the same year as each other and at the time, that felt incredibly important. When I lost the pregnancies, especially the second, I remember just feeling hollow and totally totally overwhelmed.
    You are dealing with huge losses in your life, right on top of each other. It is most surely going to take time – and that’s totally okay. There were a couple of things that really helped me that I thought I’d share:
    1) Everyone’s said it, but please take good care of yourself. Consider this the internet giving you permission to come first for a while – before your sister in law, before your husband and his family. Someone said to me that I should treat myself like I would a good friend who was recovering from a long stay in hospital – and I found that a really helpful way to look at it. I bought myself flowers every week, I allowed myself to spend all day in my pyjamas if I needed to, I ate what I wanted when I wanted. I was gentle and kind with myself as I would be with a friend, and I tried hard not to berate myself – would I tell a friend to pull herself together and get on with it? No, so I tried not to tell myself that too.
    2) Being angry/resentful/jealous right now is grief coming out – and that’s good (even though I know it doesn’t feel like it). I spent a lot of time screaming and shouting and cursing where I couldn’t be overheard. It helped a lot and made it easier to be around other people (especially since it seemed like everyone then fell pregnant).
    3) Be prepared for this to take longer than you think it should (and then longer again). It’s been nearly three years since all of that happened to me, and I still get blindsided every now and again – a date, an old photo, thinking ‘I’ll just ring Mum and tell her…’. My own SIL is currently pregnant and due to give birth on the same due date I would have had with my second pregnanct – and that’s been hard, even though we now have a very healthy toddler of our own.
    And yes most certainly and definitely there will be better times and better days. Your heart will lift again and your days will lighten. We went on to have a successful pregnancy and my daughter was born the day after my own birthday – I felt like my Mum was right there with me, and it was a great comfort.
    My heart goes out to you so much Anon and I am sending you much love and much sympathy, all the way from rainy England.

  33. My SIL was due three weeks before me. She had a healthy baby after we lost ours in the second trimester. I had a terrible time with her pregnancy but didn’t have any trouble with my nephew, for what it’s worth. He wasn’t the baby that I was mourning– he was his own completely different person. The interesting thing now is that my SIL is one of the only people who will speak about our loss, I think because her son is the age our daughter would have been.Please be gentle with yourself and give it time. She will understand.

  34. I am struggling with similar feelings. I had a miscarriage the week before Thanksgiving, just shy of 12 weeks pregnant. The baby, our first and almost certainly only, would have been due at the end of May. We’d planned to start telling everyone about it at Thanksgiving, since we’d be “safely” in the second trimester.Instead, it turned out that my husband’s brother and sister-in-law were also waiting for Thanksgiving to make their announcement that they’re expecting their second child in April. I am trying to be happy for them, and I am ashamed that my first feeling is that they are being greedy, even though that is clearly irrational.
    It is weirdly comforting to read about other women feeling the same way, but I wish I didn’t. I can’t imagine coping with a parent’s death on top of this… my heart goes out to the original poster.

  35. I am another traditional Latin Mass Catholic for Israel and against barbarism.”It passed almost unnoticed, but last month Benedict XVI significantly upped the ante in an argument he’s made one of his pontificate’s centerpieces. To the horror, one suspects, of some professional interfaith dialoguers and wishful-thinkers more generally, the pope indicated the Church should recognize that some types of religion are in fact “sick and distorted.”

  36. It’s worth noting the difeerfnce between DK requiring that bloggers post under a real name in his blog and the Southborough Board of Selectmen demanding that Susan reveal the identity of a certain blogger.Dan is in control of his blog and wants to maintain a respectable level of conversation. He’s well within his rights.Southborough, on the other hand, has no right to demand that information. If it’s a matter of libel or criminal activity, a court might require Susan to reveal the anonymous blogger.

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