Q&A: Staying up too late

Jen writes:

"WHY DO I STAY UP SO LATE EVERY NIGHT???"

At first glance, this seems like one of those silly surface questions. We all stay up too late goofing around on the internet or watching tv or knitting or reading or whatever.

But.

I think it's symptomatic of the core problem of motherhood, which is being simultaneously lonely and not having enough time to ourselves. I've been quoting Erma Bombeck for years (although now I can't find the quote everywhere so I have no way of verifying that it's really her quote!) the truest truth about SAH motherhood I've ever heard, and it sure applied to me when I was a WOH mom, too: "She's always lonely, but she never has any time to herself."

Yeah. We're all just fried from everything we do and everyone we have to interact with, and are longing for some deep time with ourselves, but at the same time we're just so lonely.

(I don't know about the rest of you, but it has gotten far, far better for me since my children have gotten older and there's no under-5 human interaction going on anymore.)

Because of my experience with mood disorders, I'm going to posit the theory that staying up too late is a form of self-medication and sensation-seeking.

The problem is that it's not without negative side effects. For one thing, we're tired all the damn time. And lack of sleep contributes to weight gain and inability to lose weight, which contributes to tiredness and frustration. And lack of sleep contributes to depression itself. (If you want to know how that all works, check out chapter 2 of the book NurtureShock, or if you're too tired to read the book, read my synopsis of Chapter 2 of NurtureShock.)

Yup.

So how about this? How about we all decide that starting this Sunday night, Mothers' Day, we are going to go to bed a full hour earlier than we usually do for two weeks in a row. I know an hour is a lot. But you deserve that hour. You deserve those 14 hours. And you still have two nights to stay up reading Cute Animals Bad Dates until 2 am before we start this.

Then, once we have some sleep in us, we'll talk about what to do about the deep loneliness while being simultaneously interacted out of our gourds.

Who's in?

63 thoughts on “Q&A: Staying up too late”

  1. Not me! Sometimes I need that downtime at night. However, my sleep patterns have always been messed up.. Sigh…Now, if my children weren’t night owls like me….

  2. I have to say, as a new Mom, the single best thing I think I’ve done to preserve my sanity is started going to sleep not long after the baby does. I say this not to be a self-congratulatory type, but more to simply back up what Moxie is saying here. I miss tons of TV shows I used to watch, and I’m way behind in reading, but when the baby wakes at 4:30 and won’t go back to sleep, I can function for the day when I’ve gone to bed at 9pm. I find people scoff at me when I say, “Oh, I get in bed at 8:30 and read until 9” but I am not ashamed!

  3. Ha. I go to bed within half an hour of my children (now 8 and 5) almost every single night. When they were smaller I went to sleep with them most of the time. It was the only way to get enough sleep to survive (both co-slept and night-nursed until 2 and night-woke often long after that.) Yes, I am usually asleep by 9:30pm. But it means I wake up naturally at 6:30am and only need 2 cups of coffee! I just have no life.

  4. I have found I feel a million times better when I make the effort to go to bed earlier. Usually I put off cleaning up the kitchen and that’s what has me staying up, plus watching a show or wasting time on the Internet. Oh, my old friend, procrastination.

  5. flea, this completely explains why your early-morning FB posts are always so literate.I’ve been thinking about it since I posted, and on the three nights a week I have my kids I tend to go to sleep later than on the nights I don’t have them. The nights I don’t have my kids I usually just sort of nonchalantly go to sleep around 10:30 or 11 without thinking about it. Hmmm.

  6. I’m in!! Need to get back to doing this … When LO was littler, I would regularly fall asleep with him (not that I had a choice, I was just so exhausted!) … I would lie down with him to put him to sleep, and poof I was out, too.As he’s gotten older (now, all of 14 mos) I am giving in to the temptation to stay up late, catch up on reading, dont watch a ton of TV (but have a couple of shows that I DVR) etc. etc. But then I am so exhausted in the morning (DS still wakes up a couple of times at night), struggling to stay awake by afternoon at work, generally not being very productive.
    Need to get back to prioritizing sleep … and that’s what I’ll do starting sunday. Thanks Moxie!

  7. If my 3.5 month old would go to sleep earlier, I would, too. Please tell me he will move back to a bedtime before 11:30 pm someday?

  8. I wish I could do this, but I work freelance in a kind of split shift. I work 5-6 hours, go pick up the kids and do homework with them, then home for dinner and the bedtime routine. Snack/homework takes anywhere from 60-90 minutes, so that eats up all the time after pickup.Then I start again after the kids are in bed, usually 7:30-8pm and I work until 11 or 12 or sometimes later. I think the latest has been 4am. After working I always feel like I need to wind down a bit, reading for a while to move myself towards sleep. I feel grateful that I have the option to get them off the bus and be there for their homework/dinner time etc. A lot of moms I know have their little kids in afterschool programs and they barely see them during the week. But I wind up sacrificing my sleep a lot.

  9. Laura, he will. I should have exempted moms of kids under 21 months from this because you don’t have much control over when you sleep.Kathleen, ouch. How do you do that?

  10. This so speaks to me and a struggle my husband and I constantly discuss. I’m naturally a night person (and it appears my 4 year old is too). I write my own blog after both kids are asleep as a way to process all that my mom brain contains, to quiet my motherhood noise. That time is precious to me – therapeutic, really (and since I teach full time it is the only time I have to do it). It is hard to find that balance of taking time for myself, my writing time, versus going to bed soon after the four year old. I’d like to say I will go to bed earlier, but I’m not sure I can do it!

  11. Apologies if this double-posts…I’m in! But not til finals are over. I really need to do this – usually it’s that, oh, I just need to check one more thing online before I go to bed. Then, poof, it’s midnight!

  12. Laura – YES! Your child will likely move back to a bedtime before 11:30pm, and you will likely be able to influence this with your routines. At 3.5 months, their schedule is still wacky. It will normalize, and it should get better soon.Thank you, Jen and Magda, for posting this. My kids are almost-4 and just 2, and I’ve only recently realized that I was doing this to my own detriment. So now I’ve started insisting on going to bed at 10:30 (I get up at 6:30), and even on nights when I don’t get to sleep until 11:30, it’s still sooo much better than when I regularly went to bed at 11:30 or midnight.

  13. Already there. My kids (3 and 6) are in bed before 8:30, and most nights I last until 10 tops. Then I’m up at 5:30 to work out. I’m in mid-recovery from anxiety and a secondary depression, and I know sleep is such a major trigger in all respects. It’s so important to my recovery and yet my obsession with it was an obvious and early symptom. I’m in this strange place where I make it a priority because not getting enough sleep can make it flare up, but at the same time I have to remind myself that if I don’t sleep well one night (for one reason or another) that it’s not the end of the world and so not to compound my misery by stressing about it.

  14. I’m not a night person and my husband is, so I’m stuck in this crappy inbetween where I get up at 5:30am with the kids b/c I’m a morning person but I feel like I need to stay up with him to have some quality time since otherwise I never see my husband. If I went to bed at 10 every night I’d love it, but that would give me 1 to 1.5 hours of time between the dinner/bedtime chaos and me going to sleep to see my husband every night which seems like it’s awfully short. Sigh.

  15. I’m in. Thanks for the inspiration. I have been backsliding in to later and later nights and that has GOT to stop. Love your theories…I have always been a night owl anyway but especially in the under-five years–it was brutal. I got in the up-past-1am habit nursing and just couldn’t get out, even when that feeding was eliminated.Go Jen go. Thanks for the question I never even thought to ask!

  16. I don’t know if I can do it. An hour? I’ll try, is all I’m going to say. I wish there were a way to remind each other at the appropriate time. Without accountability I have little faith that I’ll follow through.

  17. I really need to get back on track with this. I started going to bed crazy early when my youngest was only a few months old. I felt so resentful that I was missing out on my socalizing time with my online friends but I did feel so much better during the say. When she started sleeping better I slipped up and payed for it when she changed her sleeping schedule a few weeks ago. We are back on track but I need to get firm with myself and get some real sleep.

  18. Oh, that lonely and no time alone thing is so right on I could weep! My kids are 7 and 10 and I still feel it, although probably not as much as when they were younger.Staying up too late is especially a problem for me when my husband is traveling, which is frequently part of each week. On those nights, bedtime with the kids takes longer than it does with two parents present, plus I’ve been the “it” parent all day, too. So I’m coming downstairs later, more tired than usual, but I need some down time. If I’m not careful I end up still reading at midnight and then cursing the alarm in the morning, which goes off earlier than usual because of that whole solo parent thing. So, yes, I’m in. I’m going to get to bed earlier this week.

  19. I think you’re right Moxie. When I’m feeling the worst is when I tend to stay up the latest.Kathleen – I’m in a similar situation. I work full time from home, run my farm business in the evenings/weekends and have given up on ever having a clean house. (I just tell myself that things will get easier as they get older. Then they’ll be gone, and my house will be clean all the time!)
    My other struggle is when to fit exercise into all of this. I have come to understand what an important part of my mental health it is, but finding the time to fit it in is tricky.
    I’m also a night owl who doesn’t need a lot of sleep. (I’ve been like this since birth, and I’m much more sympathetic about my mother’s rants since my oldest is the same).
    With all that rambling aside, I will do my best to shut off the computer and climb into bed with a good book earlier because you are right. I am a better person and mother with enough sleep.

  20. How on earth do most of you get housework done though? I am a bit like Kathleen, with even longer working hours. We wake up at 6:15-6:30,get ourselves ready, make lunches, breakfast, get the kids off to school at 8, quickly tidy up and leave for work. I come home at 6, make dinner, help with HW, give baths etc. After the kids are asleep 8:30 or so, I still have work to finish, bills to pay, laundry to sort, sometimes even cook a few things for the next few days. If I and my husband went to sleep at 9:30 or 10, we would have a perpetually dirty kitchen during the week, I would have less work done and every chore would be pushed to the weekend. I do spend a lot of quality time on the weekends with the kids. Take them to the pool, park, museum and parties, garden with them. I also do grocery shopping and cook some good food. How on earth do those of you with FT WOH manage to get to bed so early? Maybe I need a job that ends when I leave the office.

  21. Looking forward to the future discussion. Hubby (a very, very social creature) seems to think I just need to go out more. He may be right, and I’ve made an effort to get together with a friend one evening a week. But really what I crave is a month of solitude. I feel like if maybe I had an extended amount of time to myself I’d feel like participating in the world again…

  22. I could have written a few of these comments. I have two kids under 5 (one a nursing infant) and I just don’t get how I am supposed to stay sane. I need a certain amount of sleep, I need to work out, and I need to feel like I’m being a good mom. I also have a 9-5 office job. Time with my husband? Me time? Those are gone.The cleaning is a real sticking point – it tends to be the first thing I’ll drop off my to do list, but after I while I will *freak out* due to the mess. So that has to get in there somewhere as well.

  23. @lolismum, unfortunately, it is as you described … a lot of chores got left for the weekend when I was going to bed early. Then I got resentful that all we did every weekend was laundry, grocery and cleaning. We’re making a conscious effort to get at least some of the stuff done over the week. Very difficult since DH travels quite a bit. Also, before it gets crazy hot here in TX, I want to spend time with DS outdoors. So, we end up going to the park nearly every evening. I also try to get a jog in with him in the stroller that way.But all this means, sleep gets pushed out to nearly 11:30-midnight.
    So, difficult to get it all in!

  24. I’m not worried about the housework- cleanish is good enough around here. I’m wondering when mommy and daddy can fit in any “grownup time” when at least mommy goes to bed so early. I don’t mean to hijack the post at all, but honestly, when did all these babies get conceived? I’m always too tired to stay up at all late.

  25. SO true, Moxie. Also, my schedule is much like Kathleen’s–if I am going to have any QT with my kids I need to stop work midafternoon and not pick it up again until after bedtime, which often means I’m not knocking off until 10:30 or 11 and then I have to wind down. I had a couple nights this week I went to bed at 11 (I don’t have to be up until 7 at the latest) and felt SO GOOD the next day, though.

  26. Ha ha! It is TOO funny that I inspired this post, when I am happy to say that in general, I get plenty of sleep, more than many people, it seems. Not to brag, it just amuses me. And I don’t get enough me time, but I get enough that I’m not lonely. I will say that lately the up-too-late blame rests with my husband. He tends to head up to bed a bit earlier, like 9:30 or 10. Left to my own devices I would stay online or watch more TV, but he tends to not kiss me goodnight when he goes upstairs, and I am superstitious that one of us will die in the night and I will have missed that last kiss. (I mean, not REALLY, but sort of.) So I follow him up to bed soon after. But lately he’s been watching sports and staying up later doing so, and I stay up too, and then I go to bed first because I can’t take it anymore. But even so, lights out is generally around 10:30-11. I can’t imagine being up later than that. I often wake up an hour too early, which is super annoying, since I don’t really need to be awake until 6:30. I am a SAHM, which makes that easier. When we want “grown-up time” we pretty much have to go upstairs by 9:15 at the latest, and that’s pushing it, or we are too tired. The kids (ages 5 1/2 and 3) are generally asleep by 8:30, so sex time cuts down on our chilling-and-watching-TV time, which is fine. But there are many many times my husband proposes knocking boots and I have to work hard not to say, “But we have Mad Men on the DVR!!!” Luckily he likes Mad Men as much as I do, so Monday nights are pretty much out for sex now. 🙂 I will say that the computer is the main enemy of sleep for me. I had a blog briefly years ago, and I finally decided that bloggers must just not like their sleep as much as I do, or something. Or their creative needs are higher than mine. I still get tired, though. Last night I actually fell asleep, still talking, while telling a bedtime story. I was partway through Perseus and Medusa when I almost had Perseus go upstairs and open a door to a room in which Madonna was doing yoga. Just as I was going to tell about him opening the door I thought, “What the hell? There’s no doors in the Perseus story. Not to mention yoga and Madonna.”

  27. I don’t have too much of a problem with going to bed early-ish. But I have to say that the bit about being simultaneously lonely and without time to myself- that is brilliant. It is part of why I blog, I think. The blog gives me a space of my own. The only time I have for my own social interactions is at 9:30 p.m! Or the occasional lunch during the work week.I hope you’re right, @Moxie, and things will get easier when my youngest gets over 5.

  28. Haha, Jen, I am always falling asleep telling bedtime stories and having that “This makes no sense!” realization. What really entertains me is how infrequently the kids seem to notice or complain!

  29. I cosleep with my 11 month old and I fall asleep with her almost every night- at 7pm! I usually get up around 10pm and spend way too long doing housework and watching tv, so I’m ALWAYS exhausted. I’m definitely going to try to get more sleep!

  30. I always hated when my parents made me go to bed early. So I became a night owl I guess to assert some control. The advice to ‘sleep when the baby does’ struck the same nerve. YOU’RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME. Even though I was insane with sleep deprivation I never took those naps or early bed times. Now my late to bedness is born out of the same feelings. When my kids jack-in-the-box out of bed until 930 there is no way I’m turning in at 10. I’mmy own stubborn teenager.

  31. During the first trimester of my third pregnancy I fell asleep almost every night when I was reading my older boys their nighttime stories…and I would sleep a solid ten hours. That was the first time in my life that I was well rested since having kids and I was amazed at how much better I did feel during the days. Amazing!! Now I’m in the third trimester and I can’t sleep at all — and it’s making me a grumpy, tired mom again.One thing hubby and I try to do is early bedtime every Sunday night. For us and for the kids. Best if we can get Monday night early too, because one night of good sleep isn’t quite enough to get the week off to a good start. Then we kind of go to bed later and later until the next Sunday and we reset for the start of the next week. I like it b/c it doesn’t restrict me every night and I have a clear map to follow.

  32. I’m in. the lonely & no time to self is spot on. My therapist says by staying up late, I’m trying to get a need met when I get mad at myself for doing it.It’s so nice to have my family around me, asleep and safe, without having to deal with all the damn dynamics/power struggles.
    If I can keep the 6.75 y.o. boy on a good supper schedule, and stick to our in bed by 7, read for a good long while routine, things go better but I’ve been slacking off recently.

  33. How early do you feed supper in order to have an in bed by 7 routine? And when do you start cooking it? We often don’t get home til 5 or later during the school week, and unless I’ve done a crock pot, that means that to make supper (even mac n cheese), do homework, do a bath, and let my kid (8.5yo) have ANY playtime or for us to have QT, she ends up in bed later than I like. Which cuts into my alone time (boy does ‘lonely but never alone’ strike a nerve!) and means a later bedtime for me. Not to mention things like housework or knitting or other personally satisfying activities.I know it would be good for me to do this, but I *don’t* know how to accomplish it without more hours in the day.

  34. I’m not interested in the sleep thing — not that I don’t empathize but of all the things I might like to improve that one’s pretty low on my list (though I do stay up too late and for exactly the reason Moxie identifies). But, I am totally down with the lonely/too much interaction thing, OMG, and would love more discussion on how people manage/minimize that. I’m mostly just rolling through it and figuring it will end someday … right?

  35. I have to agree with lolismum and Venus. As a work-out-of-home (8:30 to 5:30) mother to a 3 year old and a nursing baby, I used to try to go to sleep when the baby did– at that time, around 9:30ish, and get up with her around 6 (with, of course, wake-ups every two hours or so to nurse). I was reasonably well-rested, but the house was a disaster. Not just pleasantly disheveled, but more like I was actually paranoid that child protective services would be called if anyone “official” ever witnessed it. We could never have friends over, I spent all weekend cleaning instead of playing with my kids, and I would intermittently explode with frustration when tripping over the mess.I talked to a very successful WOH mom, and she gave me to best advice, which was the opposite of everything I’d been told — I needed to stay up later. As a doctor who completed residency training with the mantra of “sleep when you can,” this went against the grain for me. But, what a difference. I NEEDED a few hours to myself in the evening. Now the kitchen is clean, the living room floor is not an obstacle course, and I wouldn’t die of embarrassment if someone needed to use our bathroom. Honestly, it is still messy compared to most homes I see, but that’s ok. Plus, I get 30 minutes or so to myself in the evening to read, surf the web, write stupid things like this. Now I spend all weekend having fun with my kids, except naps, where I can now accomplish some bigger projects instead of just treading water.
    Anyway, this was a long reply just to say that getting a few hours less sleep was the best thing I’ve done for myself in a while. Being a smidge more tired is totally worth the loss of that horrible drowning feeling I had before.

  36. I’m reading/writing this reply in the dark on my iPhone in bed with a 16 month nursing baby. Im a SAH mom and this is the only opportunity I have to do what I want to do. I cried when I read this post because it’s true– I “interact” with my kids all day long yet I feel like I’m by myself all the time. However I have no energy to do anything else. If Iget up after putting the little one to bed i end up watching TV while constantly checking the clock to make sure I don’t go to bedpIaster midnight. But that’s pushing it and I never feel relaxed doing it because I’m constantly worried that I’m not getting enough sleep. It’s really stupid but cant help myself from feeling this way — constantly being anxious about “time.”

  37. Sounds like I am not the only mom in this situation. Moxie asked how I do it…First thing I want to say is that I am lucky to have this kind of work. I get paid really well for doing something that is kind of fun sometimes and just boring at worst. I design high-end PPT presentations…and I could do it in my sleep and sometimes do. So I can turn on a tv show on hulu and format away and be entertained at the same time. So I get plenty of time to watch my favorite shows/old movies/etc.The hard thing is finding time to spend with my husband. We have reinstituted date night after a long hiatus and that is a little bit of help. I also get one evening off a week, usually Sat night and I can do whatever I want. However, I have been working so many hours for so long and most of my friends are childless but with partners, so I have no one to go places with. That part sucks.
    The other thing that is key to being busy from early morning until late at night is having a person to clean the house. There is no way to find the time to really clean. We have someone come every two weeks to do a full clean and then I try to maintain it during the week. I organize, put away, etc and she just does the heavy clean. If I did not have my cleaning person to help me, I would really go insane. I hate a dirty house, and when we get close to the end of two weeks, I get very grumpy.
    Anyway, some day all this is going to pay off. I give thanks today that I am no longer working a full-time job plus a freelance job, just all freelance now. My husband lost his job 4 years ago and it was a rough two years after that. I felt like all I did was work (because that was really all I did) and never saw my kids except for homework time).

  38. I just wanted to post about the dinner question. I think you either have to plan dinners you can get mostly ready the night before (like crockpot dinners you have ready in the fridge the night before and then just put them on before you go to work) or you have to choose dinners that you can make really quickly. We do a lot of stirfry during the week (we have a rice cooker with a timer) and pasta…things that are fast. in the past, we would start cooking dinner around 5 and then the bathtime routine begins at 6 and storytime finishes by 7:30 at the latest, 7 ideally. As our boys have started getting a little older, we are moving everything back a little and they now are in bed around 8pm. Routine is everything in getting through all this. We have two kids that really need to get to bed on time. I find that a lot of their classmates (they are 7) actually stay up until 10pm or so. I don’t know how those kids function. Mine need their sleep or they fall apart.

  39. Lonely but never getting any time to myself – definitely hits a nerve!@amom, I completely agree, a month of solitude would be delightful.
    @kathleen, that is nearly exactly what we do and it works. It means that I do not have much time to play with my 2.5 yo daughter after I get home from work at 4:30, but if we eat by 5 or 5:15 we can have her in bed by 6:30 or 7 which saves everyone’s sanity, especially hers, since she needs the sleep.
    One very useful tip that I learned from a pediatric sleep nurse was to have our nanny give my daughter her bath in the afternoon, after her nap – she relaxes and plays in the nice, warm “spa” bath for a while and does not usually get completely powered up again for dinner/bed time. In the past we had complete chaos every night when we were trying to pack cooking, playing, eating, bathing, and getting into bed in to the two hours between getting home from work and getting her into bed. Everyone had temper tantrums and it was so stressful.
    Changing bath time made our parenting during those two hours much more pleasant, since we aren’t trying to cram so much into such a short time, when everyone is already exhausted and freaked out. This gives us a bit of lee way on the schedule. Also, if you think about it from an adult perspective, it is kind of like having a shower when you get home from work – it cleans off the day and gets you ready for a pleasant and relaxed evening. It seems to work that way for our daughter too – she can wash off the hard work of being up and simply being 2yo since 6 AM!
    I should say this bath thing works very well if you have in home care or are at home with kids yourself, but I recognise that implementing this tip this would be much tougher for kids in most outside of home care since you can’t really do the bath time routine in that type of group setting.

  40. Upon reflection, thinking about this, I’d add to @G’s Mum’s comments that I think foregoing the nightly (daily) bath is entirely appropriate, if it makes your day work better. My sense is that the roughly half of my family that lives in the UK/Europe is nowhere near as committed to daily-bathing-of-children as are many Americans (not me!). I adhere to the approach my mother used when we were growing up: hands, feet, face (must be washed before bedtime) as well as, obviously, applying common sense if more is required (i.e. if he’s been playing outside in the mud that may not be enough; some activities here in the US SouthEast necessitate post-activity and/or pre-bed checking for ticks, etc.). Also, my son (now 5) almost never gets his hair washed (with shampoo) and seems none the worse for it.The fact that my son stubbornly refuses to wear pajamas (perhaps because I dressed him in nothing but onesies 24/7 his first 2 years of life?) makes life simpler, too — he just wears to bed the same clothes he’ll wear to preschool the next day (I am not kidding), so he wakes up dressed, except for outer layers (if it’s cold) and shoes.
    As a final thought, I’ll note that having our daycare ~ a mile from our home the first 3 years of his life *so* simplified my life because I could if I wanted to drop him off and *then* go grocery shopping or go take a shower before heading to work. SO much easier! Obviously this won’t be an option for everyone, but if you’re trying to choose between 2 alternatives of similar quality but one is close to your home? I know which I’d chose (in 2-parent households, this also simplifies sharing dropoff/pickup if you work in different locations, versus a daycare that is close to just 1 parent’s workplace).

  41. I have always been a night owl and very much not a morning person, so 9 years of parenthood have really cramped my style in the sleep department. My husband gets up very early to go to work (like 3:30 or 4:00 a.m.) so we never go to bed together during the week. To top it off I am a huge procrastinator. I came to a revelation not long ago regarding my tendency to stay up so late. I am not procrastinating going to bed, but getting up and getting everyone out of the house. I WOH part time and due to DH’s work schedule I am solely responsible for getting myself and 3 kids ready in the morning and delivered to school/work. That also explains why I go to bed so much earlier on weekends, when I am not facing those mornings alone. Sadly, I haven’t been able to get myself to go to bed any earlier and am usually trying to get by on about 6 hours of sleep.

  42. I know I need more sleep. I have been exhausted for 5 years. My kid & husband are early birds, I am a night owl…I feel like I am most awake and creative in the evening hours, especially when everyone has already gone to bed and I have a blessedly quiet house. It’s hard for me to actually feel like I can relax unless my child is already asleep…like I can’t give myself permission to stand down from “duty”. So those evening hours are precious to me for personal time. But, with early birds, they are up & awake at 6 AM and I am always so, so, tired. Time for me to try out the extra sleep for a couple weeks, we’ll see if the loss of personal time means I actually feel rested for once!

  43. Die Tatsache, dass mein Sohn sich hartnäckig weigert, Pyjamas tragen (? Vielleicht, weil ich ihn gekleidet in nichts als onesies 24/7 seine ersten 2 Lebensjahren) macht das Leben einfacher, auch – nur er trägt die gleichen Kleider tragen, er wird ins Bett in den Kindergarten am nächsten Tag (ich bin kein Scherz), so wacht er gekleidet, mit Ausnahme von äußeren Schichten (wenn es kalt) und Schuhe.

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  47. Good post.. but let’s not blame the technicians that is a bit too sisilpmtic. good treatment is, of course, critical, and many of the best known experts speak of treatments taking many hours to do properly, sometimes to the extent that one has to look at what is a reasonable expectation of time for a thorough treatment. However, early detection and preparation are key factors a home that has been infested for many many months without service will require a lot of very intensive service compared to an early discovered infestation and excellent preparation. there is a hope that the freshly emerged nymphal bed bug will be killed by the current products, but i would suggest not holding your breath , though i agree if a good job is done, in most cases with good preparation, control will be achieved, and in the last few years the studies on detection tools have shown that reasonable follow-up can be arranged to ensure control. We are certainly still not out of the woods on this.. As you note, better quality is needed and the client needs to be educated on what to expect so they are not hooked by the charlatans who take the money and run. There are lots of those in many trades. As for heat treatment, i would not dismiss it so easily. Currently very expensive due to set up costs, but it has many advantages and monitoring technology is of a very high calibre and enables checking to ensure that the kill temperature is reached and sustained. the biggest limitation is affordability. I saw a total building heat treatment in Winnipeg in which a 10 or 11 storey building with about 121 units was treated over a period of about 10 days, floor by floor at a total cost of about $375 per unit. Considering that total control was achieved, that is a pretty reasonable price. Treating single units is a lot more costly, but this may be a very affordable treatment in the hospitality industry in which absolute control is needed quickly. And if you were owner of a single family dwelling and preparation was very difficult in some aspects, then heat treatment may be worth it to avoid the hassle of major disruptions. I| heard of a case in wihch a homeowner paid a firm $5000 to treat a house they has purchased that was infested for a long time unbeknownst to them. The sellers had it treated when it was empty and obviously it failed, and the new owners a young family hired a well known firm, but at end it cost hem a lot of money and no warranty was offered. It was eventualy brought under control through hiring another firm that did offer a warranty and did a thorough job. Still, the homeowner was out a lot of money.. Heat treatment would have been well worth spending even $2000 to get it done in ONE DAY.. This will become a real estate issue in future, and heat treatment will be seen as the safest, most effective method Not always practical, but it sure does have a lot of benefits when it can be done economically, and the cost is bound to go down as more firms get better equipment and more jobs.. that is my prediction.Sam

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  50. Hi Faith, thank you so much, perhaps I slohud provide you with some background on our group. I’m glad that you got help at we always refer people to bedbugger for advice, support and especially for consumer information about bed bugs. You will find bedbugger listed on our resources page (and Nobugs listed on our About page). In turn, bedbugger lists us on its links page. There are otherwise no other indications of cooperation, and so I understand why you don’t know that Nobugs is among six co-founders of this group, which we started last year with the purpose of advocating a bed bug control policy for the city of New York. When we began New York vs Bed Bugs, we asked people to write letters to their elected officials in support of our campaign for a bed bug task force (these pages are but are no longer highlighted). After the NYC City Council hearing on in February, 2009, and after the the bill in March, I thought that our work was nearly done. The advisory board would be appointed and we would work with them and present to them our concerns, our research of how other cities have approached this problem, and our ideas of what can and slohud be done. Our special interests here then are the action plans and bed bug policies in other cities (our city lacks any bed bug control policies, but this does not mean such policies are not feasible, and indeed they are being set in motion in many other places). As it is, we’ve pretty much failed. There is no comprehensive bed bug control policy, there is no board, and while there is discussion of finally convening it, I’ve learned to be pessimistic about it. These days I am pretty much the only remaining member actively engaged in this project, and yes, I overly indulge my interest in bed bug research and history, or else I would be very depressed writing for this site. I thank you very much for your interest; unfortunately you have arrived here on perhaps the last month of active blogging. (The website and the entity will remain until a better way to achieve its purpose is discerned.) I hope your own bed bug situation is soon resolved. As far as juvenile hormone analogues for bed bugs, while there was considerable controversy over one that has been widely used, maligned and may perhaps be soon rehabilitated, hydroprene, because of unpublished data that nevertheless filtered out into the public, another possibility now seems to be promising. There was a recent study on the effects of s-methoprene and you can read the paper (PDF). A previous study in the 70s also found them to be promising against bed bugs. For other presented papers at this conference, see .

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  52. they have see no signs of this either and, he told me they have tons of thigns on the way. We have dealt with resistance in roaches for years. It’s no big deal. Sure, pyrethroids are starting to fail. Don’t use pyrethroids. As for heat, it will never be cheaper as long as you have to pay a ton of cash for propane and pay someone to babysit with it for 6-8 hrs. That cost will always be there and it will always go up. The chemical treatments will continue to go down in cost because, we are getting away with doing less and less all the time and the customers are letting us do less (and it is working) and, we are getting better and better at finding them. I also want to add that we do make follow-up visits. We use (Night Watch, Climb-up & BDS) monitoring equipment after the treatment (we make it optional) but, it is seldom necessary to do additional applications. The other problem with heat is, clutter is a big factor. I don’t care what anyone tells you. I have a buddy that works for a company that does heat remediation. He tells me that the heat does not always penetrate. You are supposed to pull up the carpet edges but, they never do. The rep from RX-Heat told me that a clothes dryer is not effective if a blanket gets wadded up yet he wants us to believe that a wadded up blanket can’t insulate a BB from heat remediation. When I questioned him about it he tried to back out of his claim. He looked lost. He didn’t know how to answer. Trust me. the prep work for a heat treatment is WAY more involved and, with no residual, you gotta kill every last bug or your going back. My buddy said it takes an average of 2-3 trips. As for heat being a faster way to treat. My buddy uses electric so they can only do one unit a day. He is backed up for 3 weeks and his customers are calling us. I can do 10 jobs a day with 2 guys. If you need more done, I got a lot of guys. I’m not saying you are wrong, I just don’t see how heat will ever stay as popular as it is right now. I also wanted to point out that the University of Kentucky is going to be publishing a report soon about how heat is repelling bed bugs into other units along with roaches, mice and other pests. It causes damage to all kinds of stuff you would never think of like the candle that was left in a dresser and it melted all over the wedding dress. Glad that wasn’t me. Heat is overkill and I see it going the way of termite bait systems. Remember how big that was? After all the law suits, no one uses them unless they just like charging way too much for a product that doesn’t work.

  53. Yikes! As someone who takes in a LOT of moives, I’m always conscious about what might be lurking in the seats, be it bed bugs or lice or something else. I tend to sit in the side-seats, instead of the more popular middle seats, and my long hair is always tied up and covered with a hoodie. Would love any more tips or hints to avoid those critters at the moives.

  54. Thanks, Renee. When that bill was passed by the asebmsly the first time, a lot of people thought that was success! But it was just a first step towards success.I hope readers will (anonymously!) tell us they wrote their asebmsly members!

  55. Keith, In defence of the csumoter who paid that money, they did shop around and they picked one of the PREMIUM firms who do this work. The original price was not $5000, but far less, but when things did not work out, they still trusted this firm and having spent a fair amount, they got in even deeper. This is not uncommon.. it is like someone getting their car repaired at a dealership that they think is reputable and getting hooked. I cannot state what company as this is a confidential issue but I speak to the generality of this, and this is what can happen when a firm does not stand up for its reputation and lets the csumoter take the bite. with respect to treating a unit that is heavily cluttered, I have not heard of any product that works that well by bed bugs walking on the treated surface. if that were the case, we would see a sharp decline in the infestations within a few months. Heat treatment is expensive.. no question about that. and of course like any method, if there are limiting factors it can fail. I used to be involved in fumigations with methyl bromide or phostoxin for stored product insects in food plants and if there was flour in the bottom of an flour elevator beyond a certain depth, then insects could survive. Good preparation and monitoring is the key in heat treatment. I heard that there are new studies talking aobut bed bug behaviour in response to heat treatment, so we’ll need to see what they found. But the reality is that if the preparation is done appropriately and the treatment is monitored carefully with sensors, it can work.Is it practical for individual apartments?, probably not but i have seen a treatment of an 11 storey apartment buidling and it works well in that case. The cost per unit was about $275 $300.. Not bad for an elimination without use of any pesticides. A less expensive monitoring device is use of dry ice in an Igloo thermos place on a dog dish with talc powder. works very well.. even better than the night watch, and studies have shown that the best monitor for the money are the clim bups.. meticulous treatment is the key of course.if you are using a product that is that potent and works so well if the bugs cross it once,.. do tell what it is.. we should be out of the bed bug business ina few years if that is the case.

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  57. Það er mjög gott að finna út síðuna þína, vinur minn. Og ég mun líklega beina athygli á vefsíður þínar á hverjum degi og þá fara til vefur þig inn þinn til að finna út nýjunga efni greinar, eins fljótt og þú upp-dag. Halda upp til dagsetning! Við ímynda þú hafa a mikill morgun.

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