Q&yourA: Buying a house (in the US)

A long-time reader asked me to ask you all how to buy a house. Her story: Single mom, got a job an hour away over the state line, and can now afford to buy a house in the new location. But she has no idea how to start. She belongs to a credit union in her current location, which is in a different state from where she'll be buying the house.

All I know about this is that you need to get a mortgage preapproved before you start looking at houses. But I don't even know where you go to do that. Can she do it from her credit union? Does it matter that it's across a state line? Do credit unions even do mortgages, or only banks? And then what does she do after she gets a mortgage approved?

Anyone? If you're not in the US, please feel free to explain to us the process of buying a house where you live.

Sitting on my hands

I haven't been this blocked since the last time I had a big change that I wasn't allowed to talk about, which was my divorce.

This time it's something exciting that's making me really happy, and is expanding my horizons, but since my ex-husband and I are negotiating and mediating about it, I can't say anything about it. Which is hard for me personally, but also blocking me here. I guess I feel like I'm lying. Like I don't really have pure input on anyone else's deal when I can't come clean about my own deal.

(No, I'm not in a relationship or pregnant or anything like that.)

I think I need to just get over myself and start posting again.


Nursing: It Gets Better

I've had some requests to do an It Gets Better post about breastfeeding. Anyone want to share?

I'll start:

I had plenty of milk, but problems positioning (bad nursing pillow that let my son's head roll down so the latch got twisted). I had a ton of soreness and totally wanted to stop. My mom convinced me to try a different nursing pillow that strapped to me, and within about two days the pain was mostly gone. I still didn't think I could make it because it was just not even remotely fun. Cluster nursing and growth spurts were bad. I had oversupply that caused him to fall asleep after 10 minutes of nursing and then want to nurse an hour later, all day long.

But I just kept waking up and shoving it in his mouth when he cried, and one day it didn't seem so horrible, and a little while later it was actually ok. And now he's 9 and can get his own drinks. I never really did feel that blissed out loving it thing some women report.

Now you, please!