Expanded Wonder Weeks book!

For those of us who love The Wonder Weeks but wish it wasn't just about babies, your wish is granted. They've just released a new, expanded version that goes up to 20 months and has more ideas about things you can do during the wonder week leaps to make the leaps more entertaining for you (and, presumably, your baby). US$25 at Amazon, which makes it the perfect baby shower or new-parent or gift-giving-holiday-at-the-end-of-the-calendar-year gift.

18 thoughts on “Expanded Wonder Weeks book!”

  1. I was SO excited to see this!You know what would excite me even more, Moxie? A Primal Scream post. I need an opportunity to weep publicly about the 7, 8, and 9 month “sleep regression” which has left me utterly spent. Is it possible to die of sleep deprivation? 🙂

  2. @laura- not the answer that you want to hear, but yes, it IS possible to die of sleep deprivation. At least if you are a mouse. I don’t think anyone has tried the experiment on humans… although I swore my first child was attempting it. But I survived, and so will you. I even went on to have another baby. Whether that means that I got over the sleep deprivation or that it actually drove me insane is hard to say.

  3. Oh how I would have loved a Wonder Weeks that goes to 20 months. Really, I would like one that lasts until 216 months. But alas, I suppose that’s just a pipe dream…@Laura, Hang in there! The 7-9 month sleep regression was by far the worst for us. Things basically cleared up by about 10 months. Do what you can to survive now. Things will change eventually.

  4. Laura,I am also pretty close to insanity with the sleep deprivation. I’m attaching myself to anything that says my baby is supposed to be up all night eating from me, that includes the Wonder Weeks.
    I’m actually getting nauseous from sleep deprivation. Is that common? We cosleep and my son is ten months old. My husbands best friend and my own mom say that their sons did not stop needing them throughout the night until past two years old. What strength these people have that I failed to acknowledge before!!

  5. @Lumberjack, yes, I used to feel sick to my stomach from sleep deprivation.My oldest didn’t sleep through the night until she was 2 years old. BUT- we mostly nightweaned (down to 1-2 night wakings) at about 10 or 11 months, and for a long, long time, the routine was, up once to nurse, bring her to bed with us, sleep until morning. THAT I could do for a long time. The torture of the 5x/night wakings to eat that characterized the 6-10 month period I barely survived as long as I did.

  6. @Lumberjack & @Laura, my daughter is in the middle of the 9 month sleep regression too. But I admit that while I am exhausted and frustrated, I am not as sleep deprived as I was for the first 4 months of her life. I did feel nauseous from sleep deprivation. I felt a little bit batty actually, like I was losing myself, literally losing a grasp on reality. I’d do things like keep pouring the milk until it overflowed the glass, just staring at it watching it flow all over the counter until I snap out of it and realize what I’m doing, half a milk carton later. Crazy stuff. We need sleep.But it slowly got better and even though I am back to pacing the floors in the middle of the night with a crying baby, its not as bad as it was then and I can rationally see what’s going on and that it will end. I don’t always see it, some days it seems it will never end, but today is a good day so I can be optimistic today.
    But holy spit am I ever tired. Yawn.

  7. I’m with Cloud. I can do one night waking per night for years on end (and have been). It’s the multiple times per night that get me. You can wake me once per night for 6 years and nothing really happens, but wake me 2x per night for two nights and I get a wee bit grumpy/murderous.

  8. @Cloud, how did you nightwean? I have tried some of the No Cry Sleep Solution techniques, but after several months, he still wants to eat and be touching all night long. My girlfriends with babies have done the Crying It Out, and I just can’t do it. I just can’t and so maybe this is what I get… I’d appreciate any tips you got!@Melba, this year has flown by for me, marked by the bad, bad days and then the “ok, I can definitely deal with today,” days. What a wild exhausting ride, but for sure I know this will pass. Maybe on that day I’ll be possessed enough to make another baby. I figure folks with more than one child got over their sleep deprivation and so that’s proof of hope for me.

  9. @Lumberjack, I know you asked @Cloud, but I thought I’d jump in with what we did as I’m not a CIO fan, but…Once I could tell that DS was just waking up out of habit (rather than hunger etc) I had a talk with him one night at bath time and again while I was BF him before bed. I told him that if he got up during the night he should give his monkey a hug and try to go back to sleep. If he couldn’t get back to sleep (i.e. cried), I would come in to check on him to make sure he was OK but then I would give him 5 minutes (or maybe it was 10?) to try to fall back asleep and I’d check on him again if he couldn’t sleep. He cried. Yes. But it was an angry cry. It wasn’t an ‘I need help’ cry. I think he cried for 5 mins the first time (going to bed time) and then 3-4 minutes for each night waking that night -there were 2 or 3. 2nd night was the worst with one bout of crying for about 7 or 8 minutes. But he woke up less times. 3rd night, one waking, crying for 2 mins. 4th night, home free (at least from 7:30 pm – 4:30 am – my time when I was willing to go back in and BF).
    We did this just shy of 2 years old, so later than where you are at. But I think the talk helped. And timing. And I watched the clock because one minute of crying felt like one hour. But seeing it as 1 minute was better. I felt I could at least try it for 5 min periods.
    We’ve had to sleep train again since then, but it’s so much easier now.
    Good luck!

  10. @Lumberjack- we did the gradually increase the time between feedings methods with my oldest. My husband would go in and hold her until it was either time for me to nurse or she fell back to sleep. There was a little bit of crying, but not without comfort being offered, and not for long. We had a goal of adding 15 minutes more between feedings at a time, but she usually fell asleep before that time, and so things moved much faster than we expected.You said you’re cosleeping, so you’ll have to do some thinking on how to make that work. Maybe have your husband snuggle while you sleep elsewhere for a few nights? It didn’t take all that long, but we couldn’t get rid of the last feeding- it was just taking far too much effort to keep her from eating, so I settled on the nurse once (or occasionally twice) method. We fully nightweaned at about 21 months. In that case, sending my husband in made her scream, so I went in and said “no” when she said said “boppy” (her way of asking to nurse). She cried for just a few seconds, and then snuggled in and went back to sleep. I’d just get up and bring her into bed with us without nursing. Not long after that, she started sleeping through the night in her own bed.
    With my second (who is 1 year old and NOT nightweaned, although last night, she only nursed once), we’ve had better luck eliminating feedings with the “slowly decrease the amount” method. But that is easiest if you are using a bottle. I work, so I pump to make milk for during the day, so that is what we use for the bottles when we use them. But we’ve been all over the place with her- she is a better sleeper at “baseline” so we haven’t had to do anything too organized. Yet.
    If you go to my blog and search on nightweaning, you’ll find posts I’ve written about the various things we’ve done, and how I felt at the time.

  11. OK, the background I didn’t give: at the initial nightweaning (around 10-11 months), Pumpkin was sleeping the entire night in her crib- just with lots of wakings.By the second nightweaning, we had started bringing her into bed with us after her first wake up.
    We are currently bringing Petunia into our bed after her first wake up. She sometimes wakes up and just wants to be snuggled, not nursed, and I know that even when she wants to nurse, it is more about comfort than hunger. Whereas Pumpkin ALWAYS wanted to nurse when she woke up and I honestly think she was really hungry.
    So, whatever you decide to do, you’ll have to figure out what you think is really going on with your kid.
    Also- the separation anxiety that is the probably root cause of the 9 month sleep regression is BIG. So I think you’ll have the best luck if you wait until the worst of that seems to have passed. (The Bedtiming book has a good discussion of that.)

  12. @Lumberjack-I never could do an official CIO kind of method either. I waited 18 months (though I do not know how I made it that long) and also talked to my DS the day of and told him what was going to happen. He was mad, but I really could tell that he totally “got it”.I will say, though, that several months later, he got sick and I told him I would nurse him during the night while he was sick. Once he was better I told him no more of that. And that first night, he threw himself out of the crib after me. But, by then, I was hip to his jive and knew he was a bit dramatic, in general. He wasn’t hurt and I just cuddled him and reassured him that I was still there for him and that seemed to work just fine.
    I only mention this in case you find yourself nightweaning and then give in again during a sickness. The second time was definitely more dramatic for me.

  13. @Lumberjack, my 9 month old is my second child… but my first was a kick-ass sleeper, so I really didn’t see this coming or know how to deal. If I’d had my second child first… well who knows if I’d have had another. They’d probably have been way more spread out, like 5 years.

  14. OK, I apparently can’t shut up tonight.One more thing- we had a “scare” and I thought I was pregnant when Pumpkin was 10 months old. I remember wanting to go jump off a bridge.
    When Pumpkin was about 20 months old, I was completely onboard with the idea of having another baby.
    It does get better, and you feel human again.

  15. Oh, and again, I am with Cloud. I was not ready to have my second child until I had been done nursing for a year. I figured a year of nursing, a year off, then pregnant again. But eventually, I was ready, and jumped in with both feet.

  16. @Cloud, thank you- your words resounded with me this morning. That things will get better. I’m thinking too that now is not the time to nightwean and yeah, we should wait until he’s turned a corner from the Wonder Week/ separation anxiety/ teething.@SarcasticCarrie, ohhh that gives me hope. Logically I know that one day sure he’ll be sleeping alone and I’ll too be a graduate of Early Motherhood. But this is a lonely, lonely island sometimes.

  17. We are doing the nightweaning method written up by Jay Gordon:http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html
    So far it’s working pretty well, but BabyT is PISSED when there’s no milk at night on some nights, so it’s sometimes just easier to nurse her once.
    But the first night we tried this, she just went right back to sleep, and then didn’t wake at all the next two nights (!).
    But the past 2 nights she’s woken up to eat and we’ve had a bit of a struggle getting her to go back down. Both nights we offered her water, and she drank some, and one night she came to sleep in our bed. Last night my husband hung out with her until she fell asleep.
    But seeing as how this method actually got us a couple of nights where she didn’t wake at all, we’re totally continuing with it 😀 No CIO for us either, it just doesn’t feel right and our babe is definitely a tension increaser if no one comes to her.

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