Q&A: Work scheduling for freelancing couple?

At the Twin Cities meet-up, Amy was wondering about scheduling. She's a SAH/WAHM who does freelancing, and her husband is a teacher. He's off for the summer, so they're both picking up extra work.

They went into it thinking it was going to be awesome–he spends time with the kids while she works, then she spends time with the kids while he works, they each get 20 hours of work done a week, it's more relaxed, the kids have so much parent time, etc. Then the first week was a disaster. Not an emotional disaster, just in terms of trying to actually get the work done. So there were good results there to modify the plan.

Amy also came up with some things she hadn't thought so much about but now realized were important, one of which was that she and her husband wanted only to work during the actual work day (for them that's 8-5).

So we were all talking through it (those of us here have a huge gamut of work schedule experience) and this is what we came up with:

1. Plan the week's work schedule in advance–who's working when. If possible, assign shifts: 8-noon, and 1-5. Vary shifts so no one gets stuck with the non-nap shift or the nap shift all the time.

2. Schedule non-work (meaning non-paid-work AND non-childcare) events the same way you do during the year, meaning use a babysitter if you need to go to the doctor or do some other errand you can't take the kids along for.

3. Keep clear in your mind that being in charge of kids is a job, and you can't double-book with your paid work. So don't even be tempted to do it, as it will only lead to confusion.

4. This kind of split schedule with a partner isn't going to work if you or your partner are averse to scheduling and sticking to a schedule when temptation is there.

I know there have to be couples out there who do fit their work around each other like this, whether they freelance, own their own businesses, are academics, etc. What do you think? Have you come up with good solutions?

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  1. I’ll be listening intently here, because as I’ve revealed in the past, my husband is a professor who has a very hard time managing his time. Oh, and just so you all don’t hate him as much as you did a couple of weeks ago, I should add that he has stepped up his help around the house A LOT more after we had a long talk about the issue.This is totally not relevant to the post, but just out of curiousity, when you guys met in real life, did you disclose your real names and your kids’ names, or keep up with the screen names?

  2. I think #3 is key — double-booking is EXACTLY what that would be if one person were trying to do both at the same time. Impossible!!Glad you’re back, Moxie. I was getting worried too, but didn’t know what to do about it!! Like attiton said, “Hello, officer? There’s this lady in NYC … she writes on the Internet … Two boys … No I don’t know what her name is … No I don’t know what she looks like … Could you find out if she’s ok please?”

  3. Real names, baby. And the funny thing is, my real first name (which is pretty unusual) is a derivation of the first name of one of the reader kids in attendance. Strange, huh?I should have at the very least sent out a Twitter message that I was alive but off the grid. I think my brain was addled from too much Culver’s.

  4. Well, I forgive you if Culver’s is the excuse. I went there twice last week. Unfortunately it is the closest fast-food place to my house, so we go there too often. And I know it’s really a stupid thing to get excited about, but I like how they have bibs available for the kids.Sorry for yet another threadjack.

  5. And I personally know that moxie’s real name is Csziejhzhplica (pronounced Cheese- Splits-Ah, of course) so it really makes you wonder what the reader kid’s name is…Sorry I outed you, moxie… 😉
    (Yes, I am on wayyyyy too many powerful drugs today….)

  6. I’ve got to say how important number 1 is!!! My husband and I will occassionally both leave work early to finish working from home or we both need to do some work in the evening. But we both look at each other like, “I’ve got to work… YOU need to watch the child!” It’s all about setting the expectations with us, so if we say, “I’ve to work tonight. Can I work while you feed her dinner and then you can work while I put her to bed?” things go much smoother.Speaking of meet ups, I’m setting up another DC Area meet up for anyone interested (info on my blog)! Moxie, don’t you want to come down to DC for a visit??? Nation’s Capitol… Free museums… Devoted readers… I’m just saying.

  7. DH and I are both academics, although in theory my job is more demanding because I’m a professor (tenure-track; f/t) and he’s a lecturer. The difference being that I have to publish and do research whereas he “only” has to teach. I say “in theory” because I really try not to assume that his lectureship is any less important than my position, even though I am the breadwinner and if I were to not get tenure we’d be in serious trouble.I’d say that the thing that has worked best for us most is scheduling in advance. Our teaching schedules are never the same — he teaches MWF, I teach T/Th (or different variations of something like that). The KEY is to talk about who’s one baby duty when each day. Generally we figure our schedules out as far in advance as possible. What we’re learning is that if one of us doesn’t manage our time well, it’s not the other’s problem. In other words, if on my non-baby shift I fail to do my work, I ABSOLUTELY cannot assume that DH will pick up an extra shift of baby duty for me, fancy job notwithstanding. So, yes, SCHEDULE and stick to the schedule or suffer the consequences of what it feels like to be on baby-duty while all the while stressing out about the work you didn’t get done when you had the chance.
    It has taken me just under a year to learn this extremely valuable lesson.
    The other thing that works: even though we could do most of our work from home, it’s FAR more productive for us to work outside of the home at a cafe or at one of our campus offices.
    Glad you’re back, Moxie!

  8. We don’t quite have this issue, but ep is working on his licensing exams for architecture – so he has to work at times when we’re home. We’ve found the same as GS – even though we have an office with a door that closes (and even locks), it is easier and more effective to ship him off to the office rather than having him study at home.I suck at the home scheduling of time. No ideas what to do with people like me who are more seat of the pants and inspiration-based, other than what we do in general, which is make hand-off visible and official. “I need to hand off the kids for 20 minutes, buzz me when I’m out of time” (I forget that last phrase, and sometimes the one before that, too – duration? what duration? Wait, I didn’t realize I’d exceeded my time indicated… oy. Fortunately he’s good at coming in and doing the alarm function – ‘time’s up!’) – without the official hand-off, we are sunk (or grumpy, really). With the official hand-off, we’re okay. We can even hand off back and forth over and over in short bits without trouble as long as we absolutely ALWAYS indicate the hand-off start, and the expected end point ( :wince: as noted ).

  9. My solution offers achingly slow progress, but I have a babysitter two days a week, and then I spend two hours a night after the kids’ racktime doing my freelance editing. It means I’m tired all the time, but aren’t all moms? I’m a night owl anyway so it uses my most creative time best.The killer is when my older son is home from school – like now – and I lose precious naptime.
    DH usually spends the time I’m working by doing his chores around the house or working from home, too. Though the other night, I have to vent, he watched “Seven Samurai” while I slaved away on this tedious data entry gig I’ve got right now. Nothing like trying to think while intermittent screaming is going on right behind you (the computer and TV are, yes, in the same room).
    But usually it all works well.

  10. Hubby and I do OK with the weeknight need to work hand off, probably because neither of us works that many evenings (we never did, so this isn’t a baby-induced change in lifestyle).However, we suck at balancing time to complete our “chores”, for lack of better word (the non-work work that has to get done to keep life running). We divided up the items on our to do list, but Hubby is making far better progress on his to do list, and I am spending far more weekend time with Pumpkin. We’ve talked about it, tried to rebalance a little, but his most urgent chores are things that HAVE to be done during daylight (yardwork), while mine are things that CAN be done at night after Pumpkin goes to bed, so it always seems sensible to have me watch Pumpkin while he works on his chores… and then by the time she is in bed, I’m too tired to tackle my chores. But at least we both realize what is happening, so Hubby isn’t giving me guilt trips about my to do list. And in my defense, I did finally manage to get us an appointment with a lawyer to talk about setting up a trust and writing wills and all that fun stuff (the most important thing on my to do list).
    Sorry for the ramble. Just a little vent about how much work life is, you know?

  11. Very helpful everyone. I agree with others that getting out of the house is key. My husband and I are both grad students w/ outside work engagements (therapist and lecturer/teacher). It’s a lot. We have found that scheduling everything–workout time, personal time, friend-time, alone time, together time–to be the best. We don’t always do it a week in advance, sometimes 2 or 3 days, sometimes the day-of. It helps a lot. Having a friend, relative, or sitter who can offer 4 hours a week helps a lot because we can spend that time doing whatever strikes our fancy at that time: cleaning, cooking, work, together time, errands etc. I also recommend making a meal/dinner menu weekly including eating out twice a month. It makes shopping faster and cheaper and really takes the stress off of us for supper: i know what i’m doing and i just do it. I agree that sticking to the schedule, the agreement, and not napping when you’re supposed to be working is the hardest part.

  12. I’m just thankful we have the help of my mom two days a week. I think it would be incredibly hard otherwise. I agree that it’s most difficult not to squander any of that work time.

  13. In theory neither of us work at home, but we both have time-to-time stuff on weekends. I would only add that having the person on kid-duty take the kid(s) out is another option. In Mouse’s babyhood this looked like “hey, can you do a rolling nap while I knock out this document?” sort of thing. Now it’s more “can Mouse go with you to the grocery store”.

  14. @ Hedra- me, too. I am studying for the ARE as well. (I should say, I was… I sort of fell off-track lately.) I did most of my studying while my little guy was in bed at night.For everyone who has trouble concentrating at home but has nowhere else to go, I find that noise-eliminating headphones+ipod work pretty well. Bad for your ears, perhaps, but good for your sanity. Also, when the kids aren’t asleep, part of the responsibility of the “kid-duty” parent can be to get them out of the house for a walk, etc.

  15. My husband and I have a similar situation. We are both academics but keep traditional work hours during the school year (so baby goes to Montessori while bigger kids are in school). Our issue is with vacation time (Christmas, summer, spring break). We tend to tag team so that each of us “gets a break”, but then we find that we spend no time together (either as a couple or as a family). Sure, we do a big family vacation in the summer, but for the days we are all at home there is a lot of “well, I was up with everyone at 7am while you slept in, so I’ll be napping for the next two hours while you take them away….” While it is nice to have the same time off and to give the kids so much parent time… it also means that we seem to spend less time as a family of 5.So, my advice for those couples who work at home is not to get so tied up into the tag-teaming that you forget to spend time with all of you together.
    (Oh, and I know Moxie’s name… and I LOVE it!)

  16. @Cloud–Hey, me too!!! My husband is convinced that I’m just lazy (he says this in a very sweet way, so let’s not gang up on him!). But what he doesn’t get is that all of his “chores” are things that need to be done during the day or can’t be done with kids around… so he gets the space to do all of that while I entertain the kids… then at night after everyone goes to bed I can do all my chores. Yippeee. Except that doing my chores while he kicks back and watches TV is no fun for me (#1 I’m tired and #2 he’s usually watching something I want to watch with him). I can’t say that he’s not doing his fair share b/c he spent all day doing his fair share… and now he’s done. He doesn’t get that kid-duty is a major part of my “fair share”. Well, he’s starting to get it as he’s spent more time at home with #3 this summer… I guess it’s all a process, isn’t it?

  17. Moxie, any chance we could add a future discussion about ideas for how to schedule and balance home “chores”, family time, relationship time and personal time? This is slightly different that scheduling work at home and I don’t want to add a new topic to this important one. My DH and I were a dynamic duo of keeping on top of things (we’re both list makers), but with an 18 month old and another adoption in the process…well…things have changed. We find too that our discussions about how to balance it all can bring up all sorts of other issues. Since we both work, we find ourselves not wanting to tear ourselves away from our little monkey. But once monkey goes to bed, we start to panic. I worry sometimes that we’ll sink under our list and not grow as individuals, a couple and a family. Don’t want that to happen. Would love to hear about other ideas and experiences! Hopefully everyone isn’t sick of talking about this??!! I’m new to the site, so maybe this has been covered?? Thanks!

  18. @AmyOur chores are pretty much split down the middle, but mine tend to be the more ‘traditional’ ones: cook, wash dishes, tend to children(grrrrrrr) whilst my husband does the book-keeping, gardening, vacuumes and washes floors and all the bureaucratic stuff connected to MY job. And most of his stuff gets done during the day-time, whereas much of my stuff, but not all, gets done when the kids go to bed. But one good thing is that my husband does not go anywhere near the telly or computer when I’m say ironing or washing the plates, for example. This is something that has just fallen into place. I know it would likely piss him off if he is working on MY paperwork or mopping the floors when the kids are sleeping and I’ve got my feet up watching the matinée, unless there is a good excuse for it.

  19. Yes, the one who works needs to be totally alone, be it at home alone while the others are all out or out at Starbucks while the others are home. Moxie has a great point about sticking to schedules. My DH also brings home a lot of work just so he can hang out at home with us before bedtime, but if he’s hiding behind a computer screen the whole time or checking blackberry constantly (there ought to be a medical term for that kind of OCD), he’s gently pried away (heh). We can’t ever seem to hang out just one of us with DD since she likes everyone everywhere to spend time together.

  20. @JinMommaAll I can say is that I do 90% of the home stuff and I also work full-time outside the house. It does tick me off when my husband is watching TV and I am working hard to do the dishes, etc. Or when he heads off to the computer when everybody else is still eating dinner. (I know. Rude.)
    On the other hand, when I grump at him about all this, his response (at least partially valid) is that I am neurotic about the chores and that I am welcome to leave the dishes and sit and watch TV with him. In all fairness to DH, he doesn’t push housework on me…if one of the few cleaning things he cares about gets bad enough for him to notice, he does get up and clean and never seems to expect me to do it for him.
    Finally, weighing everything, my husband does about 30%-40% of the childcare duties, much of the laundry and I like a lot of other things about him. So, I’m thinking, we will just have to work the housework differences out.

  21. @Michelle- there is some interesting research out there (I can’t remember where, but maybe Hedra will!) about how women tend to obsess more about household chores because society judges us, but not our Hubbies, on how clean our house is, etc. So it is not as simple as saying you are free to ignore the dishes…This may have been mentioned in that interesting NYTimes article someone posted here last week about splitting chores 50-50. I think it was that same article that mentioned research showing that both husbands and wives tend to view the wife’s job as more flexible, regardless of the nature of the job. Which brings us back to the original topic of this thread. I wonder how that dynamic plays out when both spouses are freelancers- so both have extremely flexible jobs with periods of high demand? I have no personal experience in this, so I’m just curious.

  22. Welcome back Moxie! Schedule, schedule, schedule is what we have to do. Made weekly and reviewed daily at breakfast. And flexibility and the occasional trade-off/swapping of chores when something urgent comes up. We are schedule freaks though in general so this works well for us. We are also lucky that we have a very good, not too expensive occasional babysitter who can come in between his (i.e. bub’s) two naps if we both need to work. That way we can both get a run of morning nap + babysitter + afternoon nap. We also found setting up our respective offices in quiet rooms away from the action has been essential to stop the temptation to run up and see what is happening if giggles or cries can be heard. We have a small apartment so that means that I am working out of the bedroom and this bedroom becomes the playroom when I am on baby duity. It doesn’t always work perfectly but no major deadlines have been missed – DH has to go back to the office full time after the summer holidays and in fact I am going to miss having him around

  23. Division of childcare and housework was a hard thing for us when we were both working at home for about 2 years. (I still work from home, he does not anymore) I have about 25 hours a week of scheduled time meeting with clients, and my husband would watch the kids during some of that depending on his deadlines. I have about 10 hours of flexible time that I have to spend on the boring part of my business, so that usually gets done during nap times and after bed time. I have a mother’s helper that used to come 2 days a week so that my husband could work while I worked.We looked over the week’s schedule on Sunday nights to make sure the kids were covered by someone all the time. Housework at that point just kind of got done somehow- we had a list of what I wanted done each day of the week and we just took care of it, depending on who had the most time. My husband is working 6 days a week temporarily (and 12 hour shifts, ugh!), so that cleaning schedule has devolved into a “clean what must be clean” daily and then once a week I spend the day cleaning- usually Fridays. I’m adding 10 hours to my schedule in September- who knows what will happen then… I’m hoping hubby’s contract will have slowed down by then.

  24. Yes to all of the above…..especially the tag-team parenting. It can feel pretty isolating when all your interractions are debriefs for the next shift.We are in a situation where I am home for the summer, but my husband still wants to take Fridays as HIS day to be with Alex. However, we struggle with the “All Mommy All The Time” syndrome, so that can be challenging. Because I don’t want to have to haul my ass somewhere at the crack of dawn on Fridays like I would if I were working. I’m on vacation! So when you are the parent of the hour, try to find some things outside of the house to do so the non-parent can have some alone time at home. Maybe for some people this seems like a no-brainer. For us, it’s “NO! I want to stay home today!!!!!” which seems kind of crazy to me but……
    Housework just doesn’t get done anymore except when it absolutely has to. If you ever meet up with me at a Moxie playdate, you will know me by my obscenely wrinkled clothes – they pretty much go from the dryer to the basket to the bed to the basket to the bed to the basket……until they are all dirty and need to be washed again. It’s a simple system really. You can email me if you want more information about it.

  25. Dude, I feel really cool. How often does someone log in to AskMoxie and find their situation to be the topic up for discussion without even writing in about it?This week has gone more smoothly than last week — we’ve managed to work 15.5 hours in two days, which is at least 50% more than we averaged last week. Although tomorrow dh is going to the US Open for half the day so there goes his half. Eh well, we’re getting there. I found a babysitter for Friday afternoon so I can watch the golf tournament then.
    It was great seeing everyone! The lack of sign was okay, but Moxie, you ought to keep those old glasses for meet-ups. Wearing sunglasses was taking away our only chance at recognition.

  26. @Julie–Hey, you’ve copied my laundry system (or I have copied yours)!! This drives my husband absolutely CRAZY because he’s the kind of guy that pulls the clothes straight from the dryer, folds them, and then puts them all away. He mocks me for not doing the same… so I point out that he does laundry for one (himself) and I do laundry for the remaining four people in the house (and that includes a 6 yr old daughter who changes at least 50 times a day). Not to mention that he manages to do laundry while I’m on the childcare shift… so he gets to do it without anyone hanging on his leg (the baby) or desperately wanting him to hold her doll (the 6 yr old) or regaling him with the latest pokemon battle (my 8 yr old son). All of this is by way of saying, laundry is one of those chores that I try to do after the kids are in bed. But who wants to fold and put away laundry when one can veg on the couch and watch Deadliest Catch???@Paola–Yes, I will say that the TV watching while I wash dishes or herd all the kids to bed drives me *crazy*!!! His defense is that he goes to bed earlier than I do (b/c he gets up earlier) so that if he doesn’t sit down to watch until I’m done, then he won’t get to watch at all. I understand this… but it makes my chores more of a chore because I’d rather be spending time with him. So a lot of nights I go ahead and watch with him and then do my chores after he goes to bed. This makes for one *very* tired mommy!
    I frequently request that my husband take on my role for 2+weeks to see what it is really like. We both WOH full time. We both teach so have similar work demands/stresses. We leave in the morning about the same time and get home about the same time. Honestly, there is no reason we couldn’t split the chores 50-50. But I’ll wager I do 80% overall. Sometimes I’m bitter… but most of the time I’m resigned.

  27. We tried this for awhile when DS was a little younger (since then, DH has gone back to work in an office – I still work from home). The way my DH decided it would “work” would be if he ignored our son the whole time and he was with me 100% of the time… so thats what we did… its hard… terribley hard, but its doable. I’m still home with the little guy all the time (although now he gets babysat 2 days a week, thank god) and working at the same time… its an interesting situation

  28. My husband and I are both PhD students. Our son is 10 months old, and we have finally found a solution that is working. For the first 9 months, somehow my work kept getting pushed aside– because he is teaching and still taking classes, while I am ‘just’ working on research (that can be done from home and at any time). So he’d be at work all day while I was at home, watching the baby and trying to work in any spare moment. In practice, I never got any work done cause I was so tired by the time we got the boy into bed.Finally this summer we’ve worked out a schedule– I come into work from 8 to noon, we swap the baby at 12:30, and he works from 1-5 or so. I do my best work in the morning, yet he doesn’t really start functioning until 11 or so, so it’s a good schedule for us. Then if either of us has more to get done, we can work in the evenings.
    The trick (for me, anyway) is to get out of the house and into the office for my 4 hours– if I’m at home, the baby will find me!
    The downside of it all is that we’re both pretty shattered by the end of the day and the housework is definitely slipping. Gardening is my relaxation so the yard is in good shape, but the dishes tend to pile up and the floors definitely need a sweep….

  29. For the chore split, we had to rearrange our lives a LOT.We do chores in the morning. Evening is for getting ready for bed and sleeping. Period. TV, chores, all in the AM.
    Ep does chores early in the AM (he gets up first – years of trying and we’ve learned that if I am getting up first, I default to ‘awww, everyone’s so tired, let’s snooze the alarm fifty more times…’ and he defaults to ‘okay ONE more snooze, but there’s SO MUCH to get done, I’ll drag my sorry behind out of bed on the next one’ (and then does). One of those methods works, the other doesn’t. Hence he’s the alarm guy. So he starts the chores, and I join in breifly, and then blog for a bit (summer hours only), then set up myself and the kids for the day, meanwhile he’s getting ready and heading for work. I transition the kids to our nanny, and off I go.
    Outside chores are evening, around dinner (insert before or after) if they’re noisy or need light (trash can be pre-dawn).
    BUT, this leaves me chance to sleep in sometimes during the week (but not for him), and not as much hard work on my end. So weekends, we swap. The day starts a bit later even then (so I’m past the ‘awww, poor people, so sleepy!’ stage), but I’m still up earlier, and Ep gets to sleep in (along with kids) for a bit. Meanwhile, I do a longer stint of the morning housework, and try to accomplish a major declutter or other ‘big’ upkeep task. Then we tag-team or actual-team the rest of the day. He gets his lazy weekend mornings, easing into the day gently, and I get to start the ‘free day’ and charge into it. (I used to get SO annoyed at him for sitting and drinking coffee and reading the paper and *WASTING* all that free time! AAAHHH! Only, um, he’s enjoying it, yes? It’s restorative for him, yes? He functions better if he has it, yes? So my problem is only that he’s not joining me on my trundle? Sigh.)
    My mom had a rule that if anyone was working, EVERYONE was working. She applied this successfully to one of her husbands, anyway. It did ease up the distress factor that comes from one person working while the other took their ease. We can’t effectively apply this with our schedules, but they could (one college student-plus-college-employee and one college prof, both variable hours).
    Anyway, not sure if either of those help, but that’s all I’ve got.

  30. I get what you’re saying about the non-work events, but I think it seems to me like overkill to hire a babysitter for a doctor’s appointment when your spouse is home. I understand that we need to be respectful of each other’s at-home work needs, but we also need to be accomodating of each other’s non-work needs.I’m a bit averse to scheduling like this I suppose (see point 4), but to me it feels a lot like keeping score, which has always been a bad thing in my marriage.

  31. Re: “double-booking” — this is how we do it all the time. Maybe this only works because we have a 4-month old? We don’t have a schedule.Four days a week, I work part-time from home and I just fit my laptop time in during naps, while holding baby on my lap, while I’m nursing, after baby is down for the night, etc. E-mail is sent to my phone so I can send/receive while I’m at playgroup or running errands.
    On Wednesdays my husband works from home and takes care of our son while I go in to work.
    When I need to go in on a non-Wednesday for an occasional business meeting, I either trade childcare with a SAHM friend (i.e. she watches my kid for the meeting; we watch her kids while she and her husband have a date night), or we hire a student from our church who is happy to watch our “adoooorable baby” $8 a hour (we’re in the D.C. area).
    Chores: We don’t have a ton of chores, even in a single family home with a yard. Running the dishwasher, switching laundry, throwing something in the crockpot is easy enough for the at-home parent to do while working. Laundry gets folded and dishes are washed while we watch TV at night. Yard work/errands/cleaning happens on Saturdays, and we do a lot of online shopping.

  32. My husband and I have been both working from home without additional childcare since our daughter was born 2 years ago.It was extremely difficult on our relationship in the first 16 months because she had digestive issues and we usually came away with a total of 3-5 hours of interrupted sleep. It was a huge adjustment to be working together on top of having a baby. Beyond that, it’s possible. We are both graphic/web designers backed with lots of experience so we can depend on each other to help.
    Most of our projects are flexible and don’t have outrageous deadlines. We talk every morning about where our projects are and who has the most demanding deadline. Sometimes we end up both working at night.
    One of us will take her out for the morning and she’ll take a long nap allowing that time for both of us to work.
    Another helpful thing to do is figure out how many billable hours you need between the two of you to make it work. It helps ease your mind if you are slow and your spouse seems to be working more…puts it into the right perspective. Sometimes there are slow times and you need to take time to relax because before you know it you’ll be swamped with work again. Freaking out is counter-productive.
    Trust that your spouse is working. They may jump to look at news or ask moxie, but we all need a quick break here and there. It’s hard to see this when your work is piling up.
    Don’t expect to work with baby. I had this misconception before having her and I think it’s hard to understand this until you have one!
    Take breaks from each other. Sign up for a class…etc.
    Don’t stress about a messy house. Ours is bad, and that’s sort of okay. We haphazardly get the chores done as best as we can. Include the child with “helping” when you can.
    Try to organize your office and have room for growth before starting.
    Figure the worst thing that can happen is that you get a regular job and be prepared for that! We’re actually seeking part-time care now because it seems like everything will run so much smoother and it will be really, really nice.

  33. I think you all have it covered – but I have to add one thing (I don’t think it was in the comments). When it’s your turn, or your husband’s turn *cough* to watch the kids so the other can work, watching is defined as entertaining the child in another room, not sitting at the table with you web surfing with one eye on the toddler. :)I’m a big advocate of a quiet corner to work if you can manage it. And I’ll second noise cancelling headphones – even if you don’t turn on the iPod. Or foam earplugs.

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